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punishmenthurts

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late hatched Autist invader on the Wet Coast of Canada, child of the 60s and believed it all. The Hatching is sprinkled through both blogs, and the theory starts with spanking in 2014 and evolves to what, I guess The Antisocialization Theory of Neurodiversity or something by now - but don't try to read it all, it's a mess. Just ask me.

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BernieDoesIt , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic Had a few rough days.

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@BernieDoesIt @actuallyautistic ❤️

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@BernieDoesIt @actuallyautistic
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yeah?

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@BernieDoesIt @actuallyautistic
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so true.
I mean, it not being our fault is one goal but it sucks to work hard and achieve that much only for Murphy's Law to get us some other way. 😈

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@BernieDoesIt @actuallyautistic
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I don't know how I'm doing, I'm distracted, out of my mind high. I'm antsy, but all that is not relatively good compared to when I'm all in touch with myself. ❤️

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@BernieDoesIt @actuallyautistic
you too

CynAq , to ActuallyAutistic group
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“Go out of your comfort zone to grow as a person and become capable of doing more things”

Translation for my and friends for whom this doesn’t seem to work:

“Get yourself exposed to more uncomfortable situations which the neurotypical brain will automagically become desensitized to”

My brain doesn’t get desensitized to virtually anything. “Go out of your comfort zone” isn’t the helpful encouragement you think it is for me.

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@neversosimple @CynAq @actuallyautistic
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it's not very different from saying "get INTO flight or flight mode," that's what's outside of anything's comfort zone, isn't it

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@neversosimple @CynAq @actuallyautistic
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"Let that cortisol shrink your brain!"

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@pathfinder @CynAq @actuallyautistic
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ah, there's a thing, those thoughts resided in my siblings rather than me, about me "being stuck," - meaning, Autistic - but the effect was no different, I was still stuck fighting them ❤️

chevalier26 , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic Do any of y'all have EXTREME heat intolerance? It's like the older I get the more I can't put up with hot weather. I've always been very "hot-natured," prefer winter over summer, etc. but this year I think my intolerance has been the worst yet. Friends are telling me how it's peak summer weather (90 degrees is comfortable?!?) meanwhile I start sweating when it's 70+ degrees Fahrenheit outside. What gives?

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@arisummerland @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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I even tried an ice vest for golf, but I have a layer of fat all around and even that couldn't keep my core cool.

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@arisummerland @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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I wasn't big, just I could never get in shape, I 've been soft since adulthood. I think I was pinching an inch at the time, but there's no exposed blood vessels where a vest covers you, it's not like applying ice to your head or your wrists.
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Really, they do?
But just for living, right, not hiking or golfing?

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@arisummerland @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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Yeah, I guess it might have worked at home. Suddenly regretting getting rid of it.

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@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd Another question for both groups: do you find you have "spiky intelligence"? As in, you might be amazing in some areas like math, programming, etc., but struggle with executive functions. I'm good with a lot of artistic fields, but definitely struggle with organization, finances, navigation, etc. My wife and I compensate for each others' challenges.

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@dpnash @OtterForce @EVDHmn @catswhocode @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd
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music never got better, but I persist, at least I know this about it, I don't have expectations. But one word:
bloody golf. 😈 💔

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@dpnash @OtterForce @EVDHmn @catswhocode @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd
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just saying, I gave it many years, a real try, all pre-hatching, and I always sensed that it wasn't like this for everybody: every Saturday morning, taking my grip and stance, addressing the ball and saying to myself, How TF do you do this again?
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Re-learning every time. 😈

chevalier26 , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic Does anyone else find that their music taste is extremely unconventional? I can enjoy most types of music with others, but when I'm alone I listen to stuff that most people would never listen to. Like historical folk songs, military marches, courtly dance music, sea shanties, etc.

I enjoy other music too but I feel like the above categories are things I am "ashamed" to play around others. Idk if that makes sense lol.

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@chevalier26 @EVDHmn @Autisticaurochs @actuallyautistic
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It's sort of how I am about music - fave music? Whatever turned me on when I was young? 😂

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@chevalier26 @EVDHmn @Autisticaurochs @actuallyautistic
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here's joke: anything from Deep Purple to Jesus Christ Superstar 🙄

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