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chevalier26 , 4 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Just found out that NT people have REAL habits that happen basically on autopilot. This is news to me.

What most NT people think of as a "habit" I think of as a "task," even if it is a part of my routine. For example, brushing and flossing my teeth is a part of my daily routine, but I have to make myself think about each action separately. I wouldn't call them habits because I literally remind myself to do them every night. It isn't automatic.

punishmenthurts , 4 days ago

@joshsusser @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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in theory, when they practice something, they get better 😂

Autistrain , 10 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

"in modern humans, language is a tool for communication, contrary to a prominent view that we use language for thinking.",

" language does not appear to be a prerequisite for complex thought, including symbolic thought."

"it plausibly co-evolved with our thinking and reasoning capacities, and only reflects, rather than gives rise to, the signature sophistication of human cognition"

Language is primarily a tool for communication rather than thought
https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-024-07522-w

Sadly, paywalled. But, it gives good points to counter the narrative that if we don't have a language, we can't think, etc.

Edit: If you want to read it:
https://gwern.net/doc/psychology/linguistics/2024-fedorenko.pdf

#autism #actuallyautistic @actuallyautistic

punishmenthurts , 5 days ago

@Autistrain @actuallyautistic
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https://sigmoid.social/@kir0ul/112670072501322431

chevalier26 , 5 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic How did y'all discover which parts of yourself were masking and which parts are genuine? Or, figuring out when you are masking in the moment it happens? Sometimes I feel off in certain scenarios but I can never pinpoint what is masking and what isn't. Any advice or resources would be appreciated!

punishmenthurts , 5 days ago

@Zumbador @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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I really have no idea what my personality is, it may al be masking. I know what I THINK, but I don't have any awareness of some way to "be," that would be my own.
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I'm taking my first little try at figuring it out right now listening to Autism Chrysalis' list here on a loop right now:
https://youtu.be/V432ZWNpM0E?si=rumGgiC3d1RmK2v9

catswhocode , 6 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd Is it an ADHD/autistic thing to have tons of tabs open in your browser? I do this :blobfoxlaughsweat: what happens is I'll think of something, open a tab, and then forget that I opened it

punishmenthurts , 6 days ago

@tine_schreibt @catswhocode @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd
I’m brutal about it, generally, if it wasn’t worth it immediately, I notice and close it first thing next day, but I’m extremely exclusionary, I’m trying not to spend another minute reading stuff written by and for normal people, life is too short and it doesn’t fit. ❤️

punishmenthurts , 6 days ago

@catswhocode @tine_schreibt @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd
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Well then you shouldn’t read them either! 😀

Autistrain , 13 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

This essay somehow resonates in me. Since I can remember, I never understood genders. It's simply not a thing for me. Why should we be restrained and oppress ourselves with a binary choice? It doesn't make any sense in a world of diversity. It's a purely social construction that doesn't feet my view and who I am. We are all humans.

“Autistic people aren’t being fooled into being nonbinary. We see past the binary that fools you.”

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2024/06/autistic-people-arent-being-fooled-into-being-nonbinary-we-see-past-the-binary-that-fools-you/

@actuallyautistic @neurodiversity #actuallyautistic

punishmenthurts , 7 days ago

@337guanacos @nddev @james @DoomsdaysCW @Autistrain @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity
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asking for trouble here, but yes, that, for sure.
Also, we're more likely to just have a deep feeling of something huge not being right and so we try on genders in an attempt to fix that?

punishmenthurts , 7 days ago

@337guanacos @nddev @james @DoomsdaysCW @Autistrain @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity
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same, I think, if I heard you right?
Gender and sexuality were always on my list of "maybe that's what's going on," but never really took over, and in my sixties, it's finally learning about Autism that seems to be the point.

chevalier26 , 8 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Do y'all know if it's an autistic trait to be super skeptical of stuff? Like, for example, my parents watch some questionable "health" people on YouTube, and when they show me a video from said people, I can tell IMMEDIATELY that they are grifters in it for money. Idk what gives it away but it's like a flashing warning sign in my brain.

I wonder if it has to do with social influence and the effects of charisma/agreeableness that NDs might not fall for.

punishmenthurts , 8 days ago

@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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I think so.
I do sort of fall for a charismatic, though. I have learned to run from them, but my immediate reaction is the one they like, I'm afraid.
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But yes, my TV has been on all my life and I have shields up for advertising on TV and radio, and in person, well, I don't even want to be there.

punishmenthurts , 8 days ago

@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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I have what seems to be a radical theory, the unique product of my Autistic mind, that the basic lie of "Human Nature," as in a "Nature," same for all and for all time, sets them up for any bullshit at all, in its denial of evolution and really most simple causality in human affairs.
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If people have managed to be forcibly turned away from basic causality and the fact that people change, then what test do they have for truth? How is anyone to know the difference between real and pseudoscience when the "real," stuff ignores simple emotional causality and evolution?
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Again, just me, I think, NVM, carry on. 😘

punishmenthurts , 8 days ago

@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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it occurs that this is normally a complaint from "atheists," levelled at the religious, but that for me, and of course I think, "for us," it is expanded, most of the "atheist," scientists, being Allistic, have lost the Creator, but not the forever Nature. I draw that line in a different place; where the atheists," draw it doesn't really change anything.
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It really doesn't matter what you think of a likely fictional Supreme Being, the liine, where it matters, is what you think about people.

punishmenthurts , 8 days ago

@hauchvonstaub @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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I mean, I'll never learn, I am the Born Yesterday sort forever.
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I suppose I'll keep trusting and losing, but right now, I'm alone, so there's not a lot going on.
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It's not just foolishness, it's often a calculated thing, and I've been willing to take some losses to find or do some good in the world.
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But it's "only foolishness," to a certain sort of a mind, isn't it.
I think to a degree, the folks here bragging that they've learned is sort of sad, we learned a sad thing, and I suppose in the end, we might look back on it as part of masking? Learning their expectations instead of reinfocing our own?
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Meant with love, sorry if I'm Autistically brutal. ❤️

punishmenthurts , 8 days ago

@hauchvonstaub @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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also, things change, the human world is evolving badly and quickly, it's almost certain that whatever expectations we gained decades ago will no longer fit.
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That we don't talk about evolution makes everything more mysterious than it needs to be.

punishmenthurts , 8 days ago

@maggiejk @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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I was never really clear about the CRTC (Cannadian Comms regulatory body) laws about rebroadcasting radio station ads through music on hold, no-one seemed to worry about it, but it's true the big corporations buy some gawdawful music source of their own, I've hooked up may sorts of things.
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Complete with their own ads, sometimes. Personally I want to kill someone when I have to listen to the ads for a place I'm already a customer of, like were they never going to shut up? I BOUGHT YOU ALREADY. It's really bad with TV providers, 90 second ads for the service you're already watching, FFS.
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With radio, there are issues, I used to leave them on the pop/rock station, while another installer would leave it on the Christian station. 😀

punishmenthurts , 8 days ago

@maggiejk @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic
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early digital Music on Hold devices were short on memory, and extremely repetitive, I still have trauma from testing calls into some systems with those, started hearing that in my sleep

spika , 8 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

So, two winters ago I couldn't find what I did with my favorite red coat. I searched everywhere for it, and came up with nothing and was very sad that I had lost it.

For some odd reason, I decided to open the coat closet that's in the basement that we never use, it's just where old coats go to be forgotten... Guess where my coat has been for the past two years. In that closet that I totally forgot to look in.

#ActuallyAuDHD #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

punishmenthurts , 8 days ago

@spika @actuallyautistic
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if it's me I'm worried that it found its way into the not to be worn closet for a reason and I've forgotten that 😇