Jobob

theautisticcoach , 1 month ago to ActuallyAutistic group

What does “unmasking” mean to my #ActuallyAutistic comrades?

@actuallyautistic

Jobob , 1 month ago

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I'm still learning what masking means. To me, masking feels like a set of learned skills that I consciously exercise. I'm not so much hiding as doing things the hard way. But since I know the easy way doesn't actually achieve the desired results, choosing to apply less effort doesn't feel like an option. Or rather, I lose either way.

Jobob , 1 month ago

@calofost @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic do you get called scary too? I have been half wondering if that's an autism thing or just a me thing. It doesn't seem to matter how much effort I put into being gentle and considerate, people always read me as judgemental and aggressive.

Jobob , 1 month ago

@roknrol @calofost @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I am actually starting to believe that it isn't anything to do with how I look at all. Maybe resting expression reinforces it a little. But I really just think NTs see me as uncompromising, and are therefore intimidated.

lifewithtrees , 1 month ago to ActuallyAutistic group

“What do you want to do 5 years from now?”

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I am having a difficult time visioning 5 years from now, what I want to do and then how to get there.

Some of this is due to the chaos of the last few years, but I also think it could be a challenge due to #AuDHD

Also I am 42 so midlife stuff?

That all said, how do you vision 5 years from now?

@actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic

Jobob , 1 month ago

@lifewithtrees @actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic yeah, I just kinda rephrase it in my head to "what do you want to achieve in the near to mid term". It doesn't make it easier, exactly, but at least I'm not distracted by the suggestion that there should be some sort of plan complete with timeline...

niamhgarvey , 1 month ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Doctor suggested I have #ADHD but I don't think I do because:
I am able to force myself to do things even if I'm not interested in it.
I do not like spontaneity.
When I have a deadline, I cannot leave it to the last minute or anxiety would cripple me.
But I do struggle to pay attention unless am hyperfocused. And I do have executive function challenges. And I have to have a project. And I crave dopamine hits.

Anyone else similar to that?
@actuallyautistic
@actuallyadhd

Jobob , 1 month ago

@skippy442 @Dr_Obvious @sentient_water @niamhgarvey @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd actual question, or are you making a joke?

Claydisarray , 1 month ago to ActuallyAutistic group

My recent #autism diagnosis is explaining a lot for me.

For instance, I've always been super confused why a waiter appears to crack a tiny amount of black pepper from an enormous pepper mill.

It's hardly a precious spice and why can't I just do it myself?? :blobawkward:

@actuallyautistic

Jobob , 1 month ago

@Claydisarray @actuallyautistic well /now/ I'm wondering... 😂

punishmenthurts , 1 month ago to ActuallyAutistic group

#ActuallyAutistc
@actuallyautistic
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I don’t know about you, but my self diagnosis was anything but fast or easy. It was sixty year goddam treasure hunt where anyone who knew or could have known anything made a point of keeping it a secret.
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No matter the troubles I was having, the messaging from family (who absolutely all knew) and doctors and psychologists was all NT conformism:You are Normal. We are All the Same.
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Self diagnosis is about as easy as a salmon finding its breeding spot after a thousand miles of white water. It’s an against all odds kind of deal, at least for us olds.
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Neurotypes are the biggest secret in the world, because We are All the Same, they say. They don’t like self diagnosis because it’s when we win the game of Hide and Seek, we are Kicking the Can when we self discover, winning the game.
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😈❤️

Jobob , 1 month ago

@punishmenthurts @eestileib @GreenRoc @actuallyautistic how bad can prophecies get when there's someone in town who can cure all ills with their own baked goods?