Ilovechai

Ilovechai , 3 days ago to autisticadvocacy group

Often, I relate to ND vids but this one has me doubting. I do have autopilot for bedtime routine or shower routine etc, only if it gets interrupted I might forget a step 🤔 So is this universal? So many in the comments relate to the wife on this one, I know it's a spectrum, but can this be used to rule stuff out? Yeah, I'm still out here swinging back and forth pendulum style 🫠
#neurodivergent #autism @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8iqN7Gujft/?igsh=eXQwamMzeGNxYTky

Ilovechai OP , 3 days ago

@Elvenby @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

🙏🏻 thank you. I've never been able to tease apart if what could be seen as inattentive tendencies that some suspect is inattentive adhd or if it's just my generalized anxiety that can make me float or dissociate so I've thought I'm likely audhd too so this is partly why I had si much doubt. But it's helpful to hear it's not an exclusive asd experience. Ty.

Ilovechai , 4 days ago to autisticadvocacy group

Literally said this thing to my partner today when explaining how I never enjoyed the non-conseual sexual banter out of the blue from 'dude friends'..I still wonder, are autistics also more likely to be #demisexual ? As this feels definitely connected for me. I was welcomed and included socially, #highmasking but it did often feel like others were having more fun than me. This vid satisfied my wondering why.
#neurodivergent
@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

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Ilovechai OP , 4 days ago

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

So now I teach my daughters when they run into such BS:
#boundaries #consequences #selflove #selfrespect
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C6l2Br8xqIk/?igsh=MXI0YzZqcWc1ZDBieg==

Ilovechai OP , 4 days ago

@EVDHmn @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

😁🔥👏🏻✅️🥳✨️🙏🏻♥️

chevalier26 , 6 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Do any of y'all have EXTREME heat intolerance? It's like the older I get the more I can't put up with hot weather. I've always been very "hot-natured," prefer winter over summer, etc. but this year I think my intolerance has been the worst yet. Friends are telling me how it's peak summer weather (90 degrees is comfortable?!?) meanwhile I start sweating when it's 70+ degrees Fahrenheit outside. What gives?

Ilovechai , 6 days ago

@arisummerland @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic

Definitely relate.
I've been sharing about this topic for my own reasons, perhaps this is a possible resource: https://sciences.social/@Ilovechai/112638572189229264

Ilovechai , 2 months ago to autisticadvocacy group

Singing helps regulate my nervous system.
#happysaturday #goodvibes
#stim #actuallyautistic
#karaoke #ballads #singing #fedimusic #karaokenight
#specialinterest #actuallyautistic @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

Ilovechai OP , 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

Singing helps regulate my nervous system.
#happysunday #goodvibes
#stim #actuallyautistic
#karaoke #ballads #singing #fedimusic #karaokenight #sing #singing
#specialinterest #actuallyautistic

Ilovechai OP , 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

Some hobbies haven't fully materialized because small things will get me dysregulated. Frustration builds/#monitropic mind/ identifying flaws, etc. I'm able to be kind, gentle & patient w/ clients who struggle w/ #perfectionism because it's something I've been slowly trying to overcome my entire life; partially because of my high demand religion, & also now I'm recognizing not only my parents' parenting style, but #autism too. 😮‍💨 I'm learning to laugh now.

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Ilovechai OP , 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

see previous vid to understand some of the fine motor skills issues
Practicing unperfecting my #perfectionism
#happysunday #goodvibes
#stim #actuallyautistic
#karaoke #ballads #singing #fedimusic #karaokenight #sing #singing #uke
#specialinterest #actuallyautistic #autism

Ilovechai OP , 10 days ago

@punishmenthurts @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

😁 #CommonHumanity
Thank you. I don't know whether to glad or sorry that you understand in your own way. 😆

Ilovechai OP , 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

Allowing my imperfect uke playing. If anyone plays uke or guitar well and wants to be my karaoke track, I'll use it for future recording 🎶😊 we can find songs both of us know.
Singing helps regulate my nervous system.
#happysunday #goodvibes
#stim #actuallyautistic
#karaoke #ballads #singing #fedimusic #karaokenight #sing
#specialinterest #actuallyautistic

Ilovechai OP , 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

Novice uke #karaoke #siningstim

Ilovechai OP , 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

#singing #singing #stim be ok with being bad at something you're learning how to do

Ilovechai OP , 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy
Last for the day. Vocals only. Revisiting my #Madrigals days. #singing #stim #music #specialinterest #memories #sing

Ilovechai OP , 10 days ago

@woozle @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

May make those uninterested happy for me to go elsewhere.
I don't know enough about the fediverse though. I've tried to find the hashtags that make sense to me. I also have mixed feelings because I shared it with the autistic groups since this is my stim/special interest & that's the space that supposedly is welcoming & compassionate. But it's sure awkward not deleting those groups every time I reply because I want it as a thread for my own profile 🤷‍♀️

18+ Ilovechai OP , 7 days ago

@woozle @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

I'd be happy to learn how to create this, I just don't know how yet.

AnAutieAtUni , 11 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Having a “OMFG I want to be spontaneously adventurous, exploring the world like I dreamed I would be by now” kinda day.

Feeling massive frustration, coming out as boredom initially. It absolutely sucks to have a physically-limiting illness like ME/CFS. It feels like I keep crushing the light of my spirit daily to keep going. Any exertion has to be carefully contained and dosed, otherwise it costs me in: long-term health declines, anything on my calendar as it’ll need to be cancelled, relationships, etc etc etc. Even massive JOY or excitement has triggered PEM!

Feeling this way today is also GOOD because it means I’m feeling better after my recent lengthier PEM crash and mild respiratory virus. Feeling like ‘myself’ which rarely happens day-to-day… even though the respiratory virus is still there. It’s good to feel good.

Think I’m also reacting to my weekly group NHS calls with other patients about ME/CFS. Two said they also had ADHD. And also reacting to realising I’m most likely AuDHD rather than just autistic. Claiming the ADHD side feels good, yet it’s also damn painful.

Just hope this allows me to find ways to add more spontaneity and energy and exploration into my days sometimes… no idea how when ME/CFS dulls my light most of the time, but it’s important I try! I miss that complete FREEDOM. 🐎

@actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic

Ilovechai , 11 days ago

@AnAutieAtUni @actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic
✨️✨️ peeling these layers is so much... I'm only self realized asd... and still on the fence about adhd...I'd travel with you ..I know those frustrated dreaming days.. I'm stimming in the treadmill to move that buzzin in my head atm 😮‍💨