IanThistlethwaite

AnAutieAtUni , 6 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Every now and then I go through a phase of having no idea what to post on social media and definitely clueless of how to reply to even the loveliest comments on previous posts.

I usually favourite (star ⭐️) so you know I’ve seen something. But hoping that my otherwise quietness isn’t causing any issues. It’s certainly nothing personal. Been trying to post things that I want to post but been unable to get the words right and just gave up each time.

Think it’s partly because I was thrown by having positive news, sharing it here and then being reminded by someone that the good times will end. It completely floors me sometimes when people can destroy happiness in a blink like that, whether it was well-intended (which it almost always is) or not. I’m not that strong. Needing to rebuild boundaries but no idea how. Instead, I’m just lost for words now.

If you read my bio you’ll know I’m autistic and have a chronic illness. The two are absolutely interacting all the time. My days are as variable and unpredictable as it gets, with both potentially lifelong, but I refuse to give in and give up on my life.

I will carpe the fuck out of my diems until I die. And you can quote me on that - please do, especially if I’m having a ‘low’ day.

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olena , 22 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Of all the avatars I’ve ever used, my favourite was made of a bit of MRI of my own brain.
Part of the satisfaction was to have long discussions with moderators saying the avatar is supposed to show the person - and arguing that the brain is actually what I am as a person, not my face.
I pretty often enjoy finding different ‘well, technically…’ loopholes, though mostly not for exploiting them, but for the sheer joy of pointing them to someone and chucking together over such a joke.
This, together with puns, together with all “imagine this and this, wouldn’t it technically be that?” type of jokes is basically my favourite genre of humor.
And my relationship with humor is kinda complicated: I love funny things, but I often don’t find pure comedies funny(while can have a good chuckle in some straight-face side jokes in some procedurals or adventures), and the main reason is I don’t find it funny when someone struggles, someone is getting hurt, someone is ridiculed or put in an awkward/cringy situation. Someone falling isn’t funny, someone failing isn’t funny, someone put in a situation when they are clearly experiencing fear, shame or disgust isn’t funny for me.
Maybe I just empathize too much: imagining myself in their place makes me want to run away, hide, stop existing, so I just can’t feel any fun there.
But give me a good chuckle with an unexpected pun, give me those “technically..” jokes, give me clever side remarks - that may be soo funny!
Basically, for me, in all the movies, books, shows:
Chuckle > laugh
Maybe it has something to so with RSD and fear to be laughed at(based on previous experiences)
Is it something common among #neurodivergent folks? I imagine it may have something to do with #autism and affective empathy?
What is your relationships with different kinds of humor?

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