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quinze

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#ActuallyAutistic, probably #AuDHD #NonBinary temporarily-abled folk who loves programming but struggles with the tech industry's toxicity.

Found out I'm NB in 2022 and Autistic in 2024, so still figuring out stuff and preferring to stay pseudonymous. I am here to have conversations and share support, I'll block you if you try to drag me down into the anger nexus. Posts are non-searchable and auto-deleted, #nobridge #nobot #noindex.

Will contain traces of #cats, #nailpolish & #gender :QueerCat_Enby:

Profile picture: a Star Trek commbadge (DS9-era design) colorized with the four colors of the non-binary flag (yellow, white, purple, black).

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quinze , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Heya @actuallyautistic folks, do we have a Prime Directive around undiagnosed folks?

Trans folks have the Egg Prime Directive: don't tell someone they might be trans, because it's conter-intuitive in most cases (pushing people deeper into the closet).

As I disclose my diagnosis to people close to me, an unsurprising amount of them resonate with my experience and ask me whether I think they might be. I refuse to answer but share resources and offer to reply to questions about my personal experience.

quinze OP ,
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@seanwithwords @actuallyautistic well said 💜 I think positive representation is very important, same as for sexual & gender minorities.

I had a pretty prejudiced and ignorant reaction when my therapist suggested I might be autistic, and I would have hated myself after having such a reaction around a friend.

olena , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Just was ‘diagnosed’ with anxiety today after talking to a psychiatrist for five minutes (I’m using quotes because it seems a bit too preliminary to me to diagnose whoever with whatever after about 5 minutes of general talk).
Came asking for and evaluation. Was totally ignored on that regard) Of course, didn’t have courage to ask again.

Was it so obvious? Was I just a walking stereotype: middle-aged woman from a war-thorn country living alone who voluntarily came to a psychiatrist(doesn’t matter what else she has, she can’t NOT be anxious)?
Or is it just a general experience of most of female-passing folks: to be seen as anxious, to have most of their symptoms attributed to (not like I was asked about any symptoms, but maybe have demonstrated some?)?

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quinze ,
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@olena @actuallyautistic wow, sorry it happened to you. :blobcathuggiessad:

Unfortunately, the majority of MH professionals don't know about masked autism, only see the consequences of it (social anxiety, PTSD, exhaustion...) and don't care about learning about it. Took me 6 tries to find a therapist who knew about masked autism, and who is a great resource now.

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