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#scientist 🔭, #academic parent 🎒, #ProgressiveChristian ⛪️, clarinet enthusiast 🎵, #neurodivergent 🧠, #actuallyautistic :infinity_rainbow:, #cat mom, #feminist 💪, mostly tooting from unceded Dharug lands 🦘, opinions (informed or otherwise) my own 🇨🇦🇦🇺, She/Her✨️

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Profile pic: cartoon of me walking, eyes closed, headphones and music notes floating around head.

Theme pic: photo of Elmer in all its splendid patchwork colours from "Elmer the elephant" by David McKee.

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calofost , to ActuallyAutistic group
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One of my goals for this year is to get better at identifying, naming and validating my own emotions. A lofty goal for someone with alixethymia, but I've got a coach and so far it's helping. One thing I've read in one of my workbooks is that people with alexithymia often use songs, scripts from songs or books to help them identify and share emotions. That me!!! Sooooo, I've made myself a playlist and am adding them songs that describe or have described some of my deep emotions. I wanted to share some into the Mastodon void, see if the void may also know some musical gems for my playlist? Please share along with the bit of lyrics that really speaks to you of you like! @actuallyautistic

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I'll start us off with a few. Including trigger warnings. :blobcat_cry: edit: this has turned into an info dump, enjoy 😇 @actuallyautistic

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@actuallyautistic here's the playlist so far. Looking forward to your suggestions! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3qToDZV1qgMcECEKqAZpLa?si=Pd19WOUmQ5S1gRMWmeHIgA&pi=1rZACCbKTxObS

calofost , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I love sharing my struggles here and getting support. This community is so wholesome. I am in the mood for some positivity! What are good things my @actuallyautistic neuropeers are thankful for today?

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@actuallyautistic That there are beautiful people in my life who see me and love me. They smile and rejoice with my autistic joy. My husband and daughter are my number one supporters and have stuck with me through and through! Overall, humanity is beautiful, there is hope that NT and NDs can be happy together!

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@melindrea @actuallyautistic That is wonderful! Finding neurokin is pure joy!

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@roknrol @actuallyautistic This comment brought much joy! A roof and reprieve! Hurray!

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@roknrol @wakame @pathfinder @actuallyautistic there's an autistic culture podcast about star trek. Must listen to this today! https://www.autisticculturepodcast.com/p/episode-10-star-trek-is-autistic

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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic and loop earplugs!

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@wakame @pathfinder @actuallyautistic I'm a regular offender of this I think. Sorry! I get excited about a plot or something in my data and I absolutely MUST interupt someone and show it! Luckily I have my usual willing victims around the office 😆. Yay for astronomy nerds ✨️.

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@Tooden @roknrol @wakame @pathfinder @actuallyautistic :ablobcatattention:

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@wakame @pathfinder @actuallyautistic oh yes 🤭, or I just talk over the movie until someone reminds me 😅.

theautisticcoach , to ActuallyAutistic group
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What’s the biggest myth about autism that my comrades have come across in the course of their self-advocacy?

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calofost ,
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@n69n @Starbrother @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic OMG, this!!! Even if I now realise, bit late, that questions are seen as insubordination, I still wanna/need to know the answer. Also, I don’t think i really perceive questions as questioning my authority, so it is puzzling... is it really why NTs ask questions rather than, lets see, wanting to know the answer? If it is only sometimes ok, I have no idea what context is which... I don't read minds, so questions are the only way to know in my book... but if it is bad to ask questions, I'm stuck...

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic "hope you won't use that as an excuse for... [insert valid accommodation]"

CynAq , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic

Melt down or freeze up, that is the question.

calofost ,
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@CynAq @actuallyautistic I've been perusing and following this blog for some months now. It is very good. I like what they say here about these responses. https://neurodivergentinsights.com/blog/autistic-anxiety-treatment

theautisticcoach , to ActuallyAutistic group
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We often run into miscommunication issues, not just with allistics, but also other comrades.

What barriers do you face in communications?

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I cannot read minds...

theautisticcoach , to ActuallyAutistic group
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What does “unmasking” mean to my comrades?

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic not everyone likes my (even partly) unmasked self. I think it's (I am) scary because my behaviour is not as predictable as what they're used to in the NT world? Interestingly, kids usually do react positively to my authentic unmasked goofy self.

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@Jobob @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic yes, intimidating and agressive. I feel passionate, but it comes across differently. Think Greta thundberg maybe? This is definitely gendered too.

autism101 , to ActuallyAutistic group
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As autistic people, we don’t need to apologize to others for our differences.

Illustration by Izzy @autieselfcare

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An illustration with a title caption that reads, “Autistic people don’t need to apologize for”. The following list follows: 1. Needing to know details in advance: who, what, when, where, why & how 2. Being upset if something changes unexpectedly 3. Moving our body or making noises to self regulate in public places 4. Asking for accommodations & being angry if these aren’t respected 5. Putting ourself first & giving ourself time alone to recover 6. Taking the literal meaning & misinterpreting information 7. Taking a long time to process information & make decisions 8. Talking about interests passionately & always bringing them up 9. Being our authentic self & unmasking Illustration by Izzy @autieselfcare
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    @autism101 @actuallyautistic are you sure? Sure feels like I need to for many of these. I wish though...

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