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Leaving a plague of abandonment trauma in his wake.

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Juan Pablo Raba could do it today. He's got the right combination of debonair and comedy. But Raul was the GOAT Gomez.

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”Ginty and other sensory biologists have long wanted to study these mysterious neuron balls.”

Why are fuel perks at grocery stores so ubiquitous?

This seems insane to me. I live in a city where maybe 50-60% of people have cars, and most don't drive them that much. Yet every grocery store I'm aware of with the sole exception of the expensive Whole Foods has a fuel rewards points program. Reasons this should be controversial enough to enable a low-cost alternative:...

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It's probably because the grocery store is part of a larger chain where most of the locations are in the burbs and the people who shop there are dependent on cars more than the city dwellers, and they don't see the point of not having the program rolled out across the board.

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The Friday night lineup in those days was Dukes, followed by The Love Boat, followed by Fantasy Island. I didn't know it was racist. I thought it was a sort of Robbin Hood story with cool car jumps and a corrupt Sheriff of Nottinghazzard.

Could bipolar people also be 'on the spectrum'? I had a natural birth (oxygen could have been cut off to my brain during birth?)

I'm not the kind of 'trendy' bipolar, although my cunt of an aunt believes I have 'convinced' myself of that, despite being to the nuthouse twice (50 days total) and several psycho-shinks having diagnosed me with several other mental disorders; the very first nuttyness I got diagnosed with was of course, ADD/ADHD. I was given...

VubDapple ,

You're describing unpopular obsessions and irritability (which is a form of depression). You've been diagnosed with ADHD. ADHD does co-occur with depression and emotional regulation problems and with autism.

Your obsessions could be the 'special interests' of autism but that sort of thing can also occur in ADHD which is known for deep dives into narrow hobbies and hyper-focus. I'd say that in ADHD the interests tend to switch off and be replaced with a new one more frequently than in autism.

For autism you need 1) a speech/language problem (which could be very subtle) and 2) restricted and repetitive patterns of behavior or interests (eg the special interests). You maybe have the second part, so the question I'd be asking myself is whether you have the speech language problem part. Look up pragmatic language problems to get an idea. You can use language fluently but miss the subtle parts of it like what facial expressions mean and when that happens you can't understand sarcasm or other non-literal forms of language where you say one thing but mean the other. "How are you?" "I'm fine" (when the person saying this means they are not fine but don't want to talk about it)

Hope this helps.

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Yeah, what you describe might indeed fit the criteria for an autism diagnosis though I can't say for sure. I'm not aware of any pills for the condition, but you'd want to talk to a psychiatrist to know for sure. Mostly, I would send you to a speech and language therapist if one is available and affordable.

4ish years ago when I bought a house I was convinced not to get a house inspection, would it be crazy to get one now just to make sure it's all good?

Was 25 and super nervous, so when the realtor was like "oh yeah they just check for basic stuff, but I looked around and it looks great" I was like "Oh okay, this is so astronomically expensive every penny saved is good..."...

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Great answer. You want to keep on that home maintenance and not let it get too bad. Reconstruction is crazy expensive.

Qualified experts of Lemmy, do people believe you when you answer questions in your field?

The internet has made a lot of people armchair experts happy to offer their perspective with a degree of certainty, without doing the work to identify gaps in their knowledge. Often the mark of genuine expertise is knowing the limitations of your knowledge....

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In my experience there are two types of software engineers. Those who are narcissistic and believe their own bullshit and those who suffer from crippling imposter syndrome. Few can agree on what is the best way to do things but most will agree to do things the wrong way for money.

How do people actually dumpster dive to get free food? Are there any other cheap/free ways like this to get food?

My local food bank can only provide 8 packages with referrals every time before you run out, and I have, but my situation hasn't improved financially due to various set backs and I'm struggling to feed myself. I've heard that supermarkets throw out massive amounts, but have never been in a position where dumpster diving seemed...

VubDapple ,

Check local churches which will sometimes run food pantries

VubDapple ,

Check out secure scuttlebutt. I think there is even a phone app for it now. It was designed by a guy living on a boat with intermittent network access which is similar to the use case you describe.

About Suicide and Suicide Safety Planning Western Frisian

Hey folks. It's me, VubDapple. I'm a (not so active but still present) mod for this community and also a mental health professional. Recently there was some upset at this young community's rule about posts concerning suicide. I thought I'd offer a few thoughts about suicide and where things seem to stand right now. Sorry...

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