KitMuse

chevalier26 , 2 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Just found out that NT people have REAL habits that happen basically on autopilot. This is news to me.

What most NT people think of as a "habit" I think of as a "task," even if it is a part of my routine. For example, brushing and flossing my teeth is a part of my daily routine, but I have to make myself think about each action separately. I wouldn't call them habits because I literally remind myself to do them every night. It isn't automatic.

KitMuse , 2 days ago

@wakame @Uair @joshsusser @chevalier26 @actuallyautistic

Third definition on M-W.com

done in accordance with social custom or normal protocol

Their examples include handshakes to seal deals or background checks. NT folk have a lot of rituals. They just see them as "normal social customs" and so no one questions them.

Like Noah Lyle running races with a Yo-Gi-Oh card (I think that's what they are) with him.

KitMuse , 1 month ago to ActuallyAutistic group

I know people with estrogen have said their ADHD gets worse during perimenopause/menopause, but I'm wondering if people with testosterone 50+ also notice their Autism/ADHD symptoms getting worse. Especially more "inattentive"/stuck in their thoughts.

I feel like we really need more research on all of this.

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity #neurodivergent

KitMuse OP , 1 month ago

@randomgeek @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity

Thank you. This isn't my first rodeo with an older person and dealing with diabetes/heart issues, but it also doesn't FEEL like cognitive impairment I dealt with then. It reminds me so much of being five steps ahead in my brain (I am an AuDHD'er) and missing the little steps in between. (Like running to the store, coming home, getting what he needed, but forgetting to turn off the car because he was in a hurry to drink his morning "coffee" (mt Dew)

KitMuse OP , 1 month ago

@erosdiscordia @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity Thank you so much. Spouse was designated male at birth, no change in hormones, but this is very helpful and relieves us. I'm not sure a dx is possible due to rural health care, but what you're describing tracks.

We've both been focusing on masking less as well.

KitMuse OP , 1 month ago

@randomgeek @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity I ran out of characters, but is there anything that you can think of that helped.

My go-to would be slowing down and mindfulness work, which I do to help my anxiety and keep me moving one step at a time. I don't believe medication/formal dx would be possible for us easily. (I got mine through the college before grad school, but it was a big process and 100 miles one way)

KitMuse OP , 1 month ago

@randomgeek @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity Thank you so much! That is immensely helpful.

KitMuse OP , 1 month ago

@pathfinder @randomgeek @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity Thank you! That's exactly what it feels like as his spouse. (It very much DOES NOT feel like what my mother dealt with, for example.) I will share this with him and see if it resonates.

KitMuse , 1 month ago to bookstodon group

With the most likely imminent loss of my day job, I'm thinking of changing my patreon back to my writing.

Would it be too confusing if I had people able to subscribe either by my website, Patreon, or Ream? (Either same benefits each place OR same benefits with bonus short stories on my website.)

I've got a serial idea in the works and I hope to dive into it no later than June.

#AmWriting #Fantasy #Magic #Fiction #WritingCommunity #AuthorsofMastodon #bookstodon @bookstodon #WritersCoffeeClub

KitMuse OP , 1 month ago

@peachfront @bookstodon Thanks. I'm thinking about Vella. Radish I had an account with and didn't get any traction there a long time ago and decided that they were too much hassle.

KitMuse OP , 1 month ago

@JoanGrey @bookstodon Thinking about offering exclusive stuff for my website since I'll get more money that way, but otherwise, correct, for people who want Patreon or Ream they can subscribe there. It shouldn't be too much work to update all of them. Good points!