Autism

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hardware26 , in The reactions from the kid and barber 🥹

This is the first time I hear "black barbershop". Is it what I think it is, why is such separation needed?

Letstakealook ,

Black people have different hair from other races, many times non-black folks don't know how to accommodate these textures. Beyond that, historically, the barbershop in Black communities is a meeting place. People gather to discuss current events, politics, pop culture, and life in general. In this space, everyone is on the same footing. It's a cultural thing, so there is a distinction.

snooggums ,
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Racism.

Many black and other minority communities had to establish their own businesses because of being excluded from and/or violence against them at white run businesses.

null ,
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Bad take. Read the other comments in this thread for the actual reasons.

kboy101222 ,

I mean, they're right as well. Especially here in the South. Until recently where small, local barbershops have become almost a thing of the past. The guy I used to see as a kid (when I had no choice) would chase black people out of his shop with a shotgun while shouting slurs.

His shop only closed when he died in 2010. Racist fucker was almost 100.

Every barbershop where I am used to be like that.

PerogiBoi , in The reactions from the kid and barber 🥹
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I like this it was positive and nice. Thank you for sharing.

BilboBargains , in I'm in this post, and I like it.

This is often why autistic people don't climb the ranks in technical organisations, even if we are much better at our jobs. Some places create technical specialist roles that are equivalent status but there is a premium on leadership qualities rather than technical excellence.

The Egyptians built the pyramids by moving huge blocks of stone on skids. This was achieved by organising vast amounts of manpower. What they needed was some autistic people to point out that only a handful of people are required if you use some wheels.

Seigest , in I'm in this post, and I like it.
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I find the trick is to spin what I want to say into somthing positive. I can't lie but I can avoid the questions, or just be vague.

In this situation. "Will you miss us?" (assuming I won't)

"Perhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the future" (not implying I actually want to)

"So long everyone!"(ignores the question, this may also end the conversation as youve given yourself an out)

"I'm sure I'll meet many new people at my next opportunity" (to them it may imply you where happy to meet them, even if you where not)

samus12345 ,
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In this case, he was never going to see these people again, so no need to play the neurotypical game of lying to spare their feelings.

troutsushi , in I'm in this post, and I like it.

Seems Germany would be heaven to this userbase.

Pose a question, expect a no-nonsense, factual answer. Don't be offended but appreciate the candor and brevity. Get back to being productive so you can leave for a timely Feierabend like everyone else.

BackOnMyBS OP Mod ,
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I was watching a YouTube video for Americans on what not to do when visiting Germany. I was thinking that I would love to live in Germany throughout the video for the reasons you stated.

AngryCommieKender ,

I don't know German so I am going to assume that a Feierabend is going on a bender with Guy Fieri

Maho , in I'm in this post, and I like it.
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That reminded me a bit of that time I was spending the summer at grandparent's and went to the gas station to buy a few things I needed, and saw a magazine special dedicated to a tv show that was really popular with girls at that time, including a dvd and 3d anaglyph glasses. Picked it too.

Cute early 20s girl in the counter: "ohhh, do you like this show?? :D"
Me: "no, I'm just buying it for the 3D glasses for using them with Minecraft"
girl: "oh okay :/"

me, almost a week later, playing Minecraft at 3 or 4 AM: "wait, was that flirty?"

Shialac ,

Should have invited her to play Minecraft

uphillbothways , in I'm in this post, and I like it.
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"But, we're like fAmIlY."

Yeah bub, that's not a selling point. I didn't pick them either.

XTornado ,

Vin Diesel appears in the corner saying "Uhm... What did you say?" while he is setting up a barbecue at the same time.

uphillbothways ,
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Yeah yeah, you are Groot. We know.

Agent641 ,

You stay, I go. No following!

Sketchpad01 , in I'm in this post, and I like it.

Honestly wish I could do that. I've gotten so used to masking my inability to do small talk that I basically just say yes to everything. It's super annoying and something I want to work on, but I dont really know how.

Taleya ,

Its incorrect wording but i shorthanded it to 'embrace the sociopathy'. Very nice little koan to drop on the programmed reaction i've had to natural ASD reactions

'You can't do that it's sociopathic!' No ma it's ASD and i'm tired of pretending i'm not to save your face.

TonyOstrich ,

Since the acronym for sociopath is ASPD, I will often respond with something like "nuh uh, mine has one less letter". Pretty niche, but when someone gets it, so good.

yukijoou ,

ASPD

that's just a portal gun

Boi ,
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I'm the opposite i can do small talk ( and even be charming while doing it) but, i just can't STAND it and don't know how to get out of it either so i've just taken to greyrocking whenever it comes up. For the record i don't have asd ( some people said they had it in this section) just static encephalopathy ( brain damage) and am actually quite smart just I've got a lot special niche interests ( sci fi, fantasy and Gorillaz to name a few) and if i don't know you ( aka you aren't interested in these things and / or like small talk) then I don't want to talk to you but, if you don't do small talk and/ or are interested in something I'm interested in GREAT! IF YOU WANT TO TALK I'M DOWN FOR IT!

FARTYSHARTBLAST , in I just want someone to come to my house and do their own thing for the day. We don't even have to talk. I would be so happy and productive.
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This is basically just fishing but with fewer steps.

Lexam , in "Please stop telling me to leave my comfort zone"

Best response I can think of to people saying this. "You need to leave my comfort zone."

Boozilla , in "Please stop telling me to leave my comfort zone"
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Your comfort zone is BAD because it doesn't make MONEY for ME. --typical boss mentality

BlueSharkEnjoyer , in I wish I knew, for my entire life, why people will choose to sit in any other seat before they choose to sit near me on transit. Do I exude autism?
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This is called the "bus rule" around here, you don't sit beside someone if there's a still a set of seats you can have to yourself.

I'd be more worried if they did sit beside you, as that'd be considered a bit creepy.

Cypher ,

There’s also a bit more at play with the bus rule.

Take a seat in an empty row first

Not in front of someone that looks sketchy

Not immediately behind someone particularly
attractive unless other rows are full (can be creepy)

If you must share a row don’t sit next to the meth head OR the young girl.

Don’t sit towards the rear when there’s a group of troublemakers on the rearmost seats.

Do sit near exits but preferably one row behind others so you’re not the first person noticed by someone sketchy

There’s more but a lot of optimisation, particularly lo safety and social comfort, goes into selecting the best seating and neurotypical people do it completely subconsciously.

Ichebi , in When the request is too vague
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That and writing descriptions on websites

Nosferatu ,

I put everything into ChatGPT now to make words sound human.

The inverse is when I write accessibility descriptions. Those get really detailed

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