For what sort of toots could I use hashtags like #ActuallyAutistic or the previous two I just used?
I Toot quite a bit about me and my quirky way life. But I never really know if I "should" add any ND hashtags as the "silly" things I Toot about are quite normal to me. If that makes sense 🤔...
I'm proud enough, these days, of who I am. But I wonder if and when it would be good to add some of these tags... Maybe it could help connect with other peeps like me 😇.
I know what you mean though as I feel similar. It’s ‘funny’ that I can give advice to use the tags however you like but I am not doing that - oops! 🫣 I think me being a metaphorical wallflower is a survival habit that’s hard for me to ditch. My current strategy is using them when I know I want to connect with other autistic people… whether it’s to ask for advice, share something that relates to being autistic or something along those lines. But these are not rules! Just my way of justifying using them… and I could rethink that 🤔
Remember, anyone can take control of their timeline and mute people they don’t want to see, etc. Plus, as you know because you’re one of us, we’re a welcoming bunch… so… 💟
@AnAutieAtUni
Awww 🫶🏻 Fankoos!
This means a lot to me and is very helpful. 😊
I wish I didn't always feel so insecure, like I'm intruding something if I'd use the hashtags... 😊 If that makes sense... 🤔
I'll try to use the tags if I wish to connect to fellow auties then 😉 let's see how that will work out.
Thanks again! 🌸
@PixysJourney@actuallyautistic
In one sense, at least, the very normality of our existence as ND folk is what we should be posting under these tags. It allows others to see themselves. It reminds us that we not alone and that the way we think and live, isn't as strange and perhaps as different as we might otherwise think. In that sense, no matter what we are posting comes under these tags.
Otherwise, you could save the tags for those questions, or insights we all have. With the things that you want to specifically share with the community.
@pathfinder
Fankoos 🫶🏻
I'm just worried in a way that people may feel I don't use the tags correct and maybe end up blocking me because of that.
I'd like to tag my journal and daily things posts with the tags, but I was in doubt if they'd be "good enough" to be tagged... 🤔
I know, I worry about the most silly things! 😂 But after being told so often that I did things wrong, I'd like to know "the rules" now so I can apply them as I should. If that makes sense 🤔
@PixysJourney@actuallyautistic
Worrying about stupid things and doing things wrong, is the very definition of our existence. Also, wanting to know the rules. Although, in this case, as in so much of life, there are no rules really, beyond "the tag belongs to those who fall under it." I'm not saying that there will not be those who want to stipulate what should and shouldn't fall under the tags, but really that just falls under a universal rule, there's always one. 😀
Reality. We're the ones making the rules here. We no longer need permission, or to struggle to fit in. It's our tag, no one else's. Use it as you will. 😀
But I'd also like to add:
Once you've done the basic work of being decent online, (being kind, not harassing people who disagree with you etc) it may help to move on to reframe being blocked / muted / unfollowed as a neutral thing, and not a scold or a judgement.
You get to be yourself on here, and that hopefully attracts people who get who you are. And it might also result in people opting out of following you because they don't get who you are. Or they get it, but for whatever reason, don't want your kind of energy in their feed right now.
You not having to deal with those people, and them not having to deal with you is a good thing for all concerned.
@Zumbador@pathfinder@PixysJourney@actuallyautistic Love this. Just because two colors are good doesn't mean they won't clash. And backward, too. If they clash, it doesn't mean they don't have other colors to harmoniously be next to.
@Zumbador
Thank you 🌸
I always try to respectful towards others. But that's maybe also why I worry so much...
And yeah, we can't be friends with everyone, we don't have to be. But I also never wanna be "that person" that annoys others and leaves a bad feeling... If that makes sense 🤔
Thanks again! I'm very grateful for all your kind replies! 🌸
@PixysJourney Autists are the champs of Worry. Also Overcompensating, Overthinking, Undervaluing ourselves, and apologising for existing.
None of those tags are inappropriate, imv, and all will lead to a convo, I hope. @pathfinder@actuallyautistic
@Tooden@PixysJourney@pathfinder@actuallyautistic I agree, I think if you're using a hashtag you're just inviting a certain audience to read. If you think what you're posting is relevant to that audience and that it might spark a bit of conversation then go for it. And I don’t think there's a threshold of 'good enough’ that needs clearing - if you feel it fits, then it fits
@Tooden
That's me for sure! 😁
And thank you! 🌸
I'll do my best and try to use the tags when I'd like to reach fellow auties 😉 @pathfinder@actuallyautistic
@actuallyautistic
And of course now I wonder if it makes sense to ask if I could use the tags? I can always use them, but I don't want to use them wrong, if that makes sense... 🤔
I just easily worry too much about way too many things...
Thanks again!
:neurodiversity:
@jacquiharper
Thank you 🌸
I don't think I know how not to overthink though... I've always worried and then some... 🤔
And I'll definitely keep sharing Arwen 🐾 when I can, thank you 💜 I mostly share her snaps on my Pixelfed these days, but sometimes I boost them on this account. 😉
Fankoos 🫶🏻 @actuallyautistic
@PixysJourney@actuallyautistic Use the tags that make sense to you - that’s the way I do it. I,m not sure (as @pathfinder said) that there are any hard n fast rules.