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lkanies

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I’m a tech founder and recovering SysAdmin. I helped found DevOps and grew up in open source. These days I am convalescing from a decade of physical and mental neglect while running Puppet.

I sometimes write about startups, founders, and other topics I like.

I am an angel investor, mostly in areas of expertise (infrastructure and dev tools) and interest (local first software and power tools).

I am generally default-accept on first conversations.

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LehtoriTuomo , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Went to a bar with a visiting scholar. The first three hours or so were fun. We had good food and nice whisky. Colleague was chatty and I enjoyed listening.

Then loud drunk people came in. I noticed I had hard time following my colleague's talk. The drunk people started to get on my nerves. I was also very conscious of my pinkish nails. Now that I've paid more attention to my bodily reactions, I noticed how anxious the change of the atmosphere made me.

Fortunately I had already checked my bus schedule and the colleague had said that I can just let him know whenever I have to leave. I said that it's getting loud, then explained I'm autistic and have auditory processing problems and that there would be a bus in 15 minutes. He said that we can leave right away. 💜 Once outside, it felt better again.

The older I get, the less I enjoy noisy bars. Or should I say the less I tolerate them. Never really liked them.

@actuallyautistic

lkanies ,
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@LehtoriTuomo @actuallyautistic same.

I find it quite freeing now to just let myself admit that I cannot tolerate it.

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