Speaking from my own experience, yes, it can in fact be very difficult to learn from your mistakes if others only keep watching you repeat them and never tell you what you’re doing wrong.
I know there’s this school of though that says “if you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing it all”, but in the long run, it doesn’t really help anyone grow if you always withhold the truth from them. Just try to be diplomatic about it and offer help if at all possible.
Well, then I'm sure you must be familiar with Matthew 12:33-37, as well as 5:21-26, so why don't you stop being obtuse and tell me straight up what beef you have with me?
Because I can tell you from my own experience that these words are definitely true, and you will end up paying a price for your insolence.
I'm not sure if you've ever read the gospels or not, but the people who sought Jesus's help generally didn't start out by offending him. The ones who did do that were always the scribes and the Pharisees, and the types of answers they received in return I suppose could be described in that way.
Have you tried pointing that out, or maybe asking him relevant questions about it?
You realize he's trying to share a part of his life with you, and the goal is likely to create some sort of connection. Perhaps he's not very good at it and maybe his life really is very boring, but the reason he does it is likely because he's looking for someone take an interest in him.
At the risk of explaining the obvious, that's the point. It's how people feign interest in others in order to maintain a socially acceptable level of friendship. The point of the meme isn't the words being used but their frequency. Basically, if you get THIS many dangs and yups in a row without a single actual question, that's a pretty clear hint the other person isn't actually THAT interested in your story but doesn't want to risk offending you by forcefully cutting you off.
Someone who's actually interested will ask you relevant questions. Dangs and yups are just encouragement to help you unburden yourself of your thoughts without them needing to take ownership for them.
I mean yes, and that’s why I’d hesitate to call those a bad thing per se. Left on its own, the mind will simply continue to ruminate on everything that’s ever happened to you on this earth, and it will spin story after story explaining how you got to this particular point in your life. And there’s probably some value to it, because if you suppress this indefinitely, you WILL become a psychopath, but if don’t put a stop to it from time to time in order to take action, those stories will also never ever change.
So while they mighty be clichés, and certainly present opportunities for abuse, those thought ending statements can also have a productive use because without them you’ll simply get stuck in a Groundhog Day scenario based on your own life.
