Ok so what are some signals and reasons for signals that’s your partner wants you to do something?
Perhaps it’s the way they hold their coffee or change thier tone or give you looks to let them know what you want or what they are trying to signal to your brain to essentials observe and understand what’s going to happen next
It can be anything I’m curious if any couples made any cognitive life hacks 😵💫😒
Here's an example of what does not work: glaring at your autistic spouse.
My ex-wife has ADHD, but we did not know that I was autistic, and we never discussed neurodivergence in our household.
She'd be annoyed. She'd communicate this annoyance by glaring. I'd fail to perceive it. She'd accuse me of deliberately ignoring her. I'd accuse her of inventing her glares.
I begged her to be explicit, but she couldn't. She was 20 years older than I am, and she said that's how she was raised.
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Our marriage managed to last 22 years. It is when she retired, and I was home in earnest that things started going bad for us.
Actually, I was thinking about this this morning. We bought the last house we lived in from another couple that was or had divorced. I think the house is cursed. :madjoy:
@everyday_human@actuallyautistic@actuallyadhd seeing as we're a neurodiverse household: if you want something done, you need to actually say it. We do have those small signals, but they often get lost in the others' pack of focus, and that's (mostly) okay.