I know you're not directly asking me for advice, but I guess one thing to keep in mind (Regarding why moderators are shitty sometimes)
Is that literally anyone, ANYONE, can make a community. It's also not a paid like job or anything, (Which I know you are aware of that fact also)
So they aren't beholden to anyone or anything regarding their 'practices' no accountability. So they literally don't give a shit really. There's no pre-screening required or emotional equity test performed in order to be an admin or a mod.
So you're gunna come across a lot of uptight, mentally unhinged people who more then likely lack, or have zero control of their own personal lives. except for their community or instance on lemmy.
That ends up turning out with the issues you're dealing with. They end up taking content or comments they don't like personally. And lash out with the removing and banning with zero follow up.
They don't even hold themselves accountable for their own actions. So of course, unfortunately, you won't get an explanation.
If you ask me, people seriously need to chill the fuck out. Lemmy doesn't pay your bills ok. It's a hobby. It's supposed to be fun
I mean my God. It's just taken to a limit sometimes that it doesn't even need to go in.
Anyway, take care man. Wish I could be of more help.
Have you ever thought about or would be interested in, creating communities like that, but on your main instance ? (Assuming you're on the bigger ones that are federated with everyone)
You'd be able to be the mod obviously, and maybe that would help garner discussions about your concerns.
