There’s a book called “Self Made Man” wherein a butch looking woman disguised herself as a man with the help of some professionals, back when this was a wild and uncommon thing to do, and then went and did extended lengths of time in exclusively male environments (bowling league, high pressure sales) to covertly observe men in their natural environment. It is in all seriousness the best book I have ever read on gender psychology and the differences and communication troubles between the main genders.
I won’t even try to summarize, but what she came away from it with is that the standard cliche of “on a different wavelength” is exactly the right metaphor. She wasn’t coming from any kind of deliberately ignorant perspective but she did have the pretty common perception that man are just sort of these cavemen, and was actually very shocked and surprised to discover that the average man has a whole complex emotional life of his own, but that it happens in a way and in a language that’s mostly invisible to the average woman unless she is very very deeply involved in his life.
Like I say, it sounds like a pretty corny premise especially in today’s supposedly more enlightened times, but to me it was extremely insightful and real.