@Ilovechai@autisticadvocacy@actuallyautistic@actuallyaudhd omg yes. Another thing I attributed entirely to trauma, when the reality probably is it's a combination. When I finally found the strength to say I could not take another day of the trauma of a controlling relationship, it was at least a year before I was able to say the pronouns "I, me, my, mine." EVERYTHING had been "we." Six years on I've finally found myself again, but I'm not entirely free of him, either.