@olena@actuallyautistic
I'm not autistic just ADHD, but I've had to teach myself in recent years to have the courage to ask instead of wildly guessing what people mean/want.
Like you say, many people seem to find it rude to ask for clarification, but I've realized that it isn't worth worrying about the opinion of anyone who is going to get mad at someone for trying to understand and get something right.