@pathfinder@actuallyautistic It’s the speed of allistic communication that causes problems for me. I get very frustrated at trying to keep up with a conversation, especially when there are multiple allistic people involved. They somehow talk with each other in a flow without interrupting, and I am struggling to find a space to talk. When I do try to talk, they act like I am out of turn.
I can get very frustrated and even upset at not being able to break in with what I want to say, and then the topic changes before I can speak. So when I finally do speak, I am breaking their flow by speaking out of turn and on the wrong topic. Their frustration at me for doing this doubles the frustration I am already feeling, and conversations can get tense.
Adding to that is how often they don’t understand what I mean, and they respond in a way that shows me that I haven’t expressed myself very well.
But to not speak and express myself is also frustrating, because then they assume I agree with them when often I don’t. So I feel like I have to try to speak. The whole thing is overwhelming and frustrating.