@Zumbador
"I want/or don't want to do X, because I don't have the necessary headspace for it/they both/all seem good to me.", where X can include making a choice.
If it is the obligation on someone that you're trying to avoid, maybe "feel free to not do <obligation> if you don't want to do it".
I know someone who takes on a stance of obstinate forthrightness as a response, because guess culture folks eventually internalise "they're just like that" and stop feeling hurt @actuallyautistic