@actuallyautistic@Zumbador Often, they don't want you to choose, they just want to know your opinion about the options. This is why they try to change your choice afterwards. They want a discussion and find out what is the best common choice for the both of you.
Possibly, they are not 100% nice and there is a bit of a power struggle as well, but not necessarily.
In any case, the trick is to realize that they don't want you to choose, they want a discussion. (1/2)