@Zumbador@actuallyautistic
Yeah, that type of thing sucks. Honestly when forced into decision-making by people who care more than I do, I usually suggest one thing, and if people start arguing with me then I assume they probably want the other but are too "polite" to just say what they want.
Not 100% foolproof, but sometimes you have to "trick" people into admitting what they actually want because they won't just say it outright.