@Ilovechai@actuallyautistic@actuallyaudhd
That's rough.
I don't know if I am any good at advising on this, because really I don't have a lot of close old-fashioned RL friends.
Sometimes I wonder if that sort of friendship was maybe just a result of not having any other options.
Judging by old literature, maybe those friendships weren't all that great anyway, except when people got lucky somehow.
Lots of codependent relationships, lots of having to put up with people just because that's what a person was supposed to do.
Best I can say, I think, is that yeah, what you say feels relatable.
I don't have a background in religious community, let alone a high-demand one.