My spouse works in the industry, so I definitely get that it would be upsetting to think your work won but then didn’t. At the same time everyone there also kind of knows these awards aren’t and can’t be objective judges of quality, and mostly function as resume padding/bragging rights. Even being nominated gives you a leg up, so it’s not as if they have nothing to show for it. Side note: I think people also underestimate how many people working on projects think the project is hot trash, but that might be personal bias in the kind of people my spouse and I hang out with, lol.
For clarity I’m mostly remembering the chuds at the time who were being homophobic/racist about Moonlight getting nominated and then winning, those are the people who it cracked me up to see flip out.