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I'm visiting family, and wow am I deep in autistic denial territory.

Some of my younger relatives have approached me, asking about neurodivergence because I've been so open about my experience as a late realised autistic person. They're wondering about themselves and their parents.

The older people though, are unable to have that conversation. There are jokey, sidelong half acknowledgements that "there might be something going on" with them, but otherwise it's High Masking At All Times.

What I find difficult to deal with is the rather toxic judgemental attitudes.

So-and-so relative is "so picky about his food, he thinks it makes him important" or "how ridiculous, he doesn't like the too bright light in the bathroom" and all the while I can see them struggling to deal with the exact same difficulties they're judging in others.

It's so ingrained, I don't know if there's a way for them to find self acceptance.

mwl ,
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Many older people will never admit it.

I talked about my issues at an extended family picnic at one point, saying how medication magically helped everything. I was laughed at and scorned by older people who clearly have the exact same issues I do.

The older generation got beaten into compliance. I doubt they will ever find their way out. :flan_piteous:

mwl ,
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Past generations had so little help available.

In retrospect, my dad's 4 pack a day cigarette habit and his alcoholism make perfect sense. It's what was available to treat his symptoms.

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