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dave

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Autistic digital nomad, ADHDer, optimist, lover of learning, tinkerer, CTO of a startup.

I live in an RV and travel around North America

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@actuallyautistic Today marks the 1st of as and I can not be happier about that. 😊

dave ,
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@sebwhatever

Happy Autism day to you!

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Any other autistic kin struggle with speech and articulation when they were little?

I'm recording an instructional voice-over today and my mom just told me I used to have a lisp when I was little. That's news to me!

I definitely notice sludgy articulation around L and S sound as an adult. Outside of voice over recording, I could not care less about my articulation. But it is interesting!

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Nobody has ever commented on it, that I can recall, but when I hear my voice it seems to me I don't enunciate very well.

I spent some time learning to sing, which involved listening to myself repeatedly, and it was really obvious when I compared recordings of my singing to the actual songs I was singing - my words were kinda strung together, like my mouth doesn't move far enough around each sound to enunciate it clearly.

Forcing myself to enunciate clearly feels incredibly awkward and unnatural 🤷‍♂️

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Which reminds me of another thing: when people smile and pose for photos, does that smile come naturally to them? Does it feel natural?

I remember at some point looking at photos of myself smiling, and thinking they didn't look great. So I tried a different way of smiling, which looks a lot better in photos, but feels so incredibly awkward and unnatural 😂

Are these things NTs never think about?!

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I can tell when I need to lower the volume of something I'm listening to when I feel a kind of tightening in my ear muscles, and/or ringing in my ears, or a slight feeling of stress coming in from my environment.

I also just try to remember to always proactively lower the volume a couple ticks from what i first set it at, to prevent all those sensations.

What are the signs for you that things are a little too loud?

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dave ,
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@dyani I can't think or focus.

Usually when I'm on road trips, I've got the music up loud. But as soon as I get off the highway and need to start paying closer attention to where I'm going, I need to turn the music down so I can focus on navigating.

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Yesterday was my 1 year AuDHD anniversary!

1 year since the most life-changing realization ever. My resting heart rate dropped by ~10 points after I figured it out.

Knowing this about myself has given me so much peace & confidence. It's given me even more compassion for myself and others. I advocate for my needs now, and I have better boundaries.

Every day I marvel at how amazing we ND folks are, and how much we bring to the world.

I so appreciate this community!

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dave ,
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@dyani
omg I missed it! Happy autism day!!! ❤️❤️

It's in my calendar but this week has been nuts wrapping up work before vacay. I even thought of it earlier this week and reminded myself to send you a message 😭

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