Yeah that's what I'm saying, maybe where you live just has a weird proportion of trans people who are fairly close-knit in comparison to other areas (like where I lived in both capital and smaller cities), especially because chances of bumping into another trans person IRL are next to nil because we are some <1% of the population, so perhaps it's some kinda bay area free love culture you got going on there that just isn't the experience of the average trans person. Godspeed in any case.