What happened to all the baddies you knew growing up?

I don't know if this is something people say in other countries, but in my country, there's this common cliché or "wisdom" where adults will assure you that the people who picked on you in environments like school will universally develop lives of hardship later on, one way or another getting into mayhem.

I asked my mother one day what happened to all those people growing up. I can sense she may have been sugar coating it, but she said something along the lines of "well, I waited, and waited, and waited, and waited, and waited, and became a teacher, and waited some more, and finally watched as my bullies had to go into retirement five years late, yay" (okay, not really like that, but it might as well have been).

Yeah, common theme in my experience that what we hope for is never "that" set in stone. No matter where in the community (or even long-distance communicating) you knew them from, based on life, how much approximate correspondence do you associate with that mindset in the first paragraph?

Clbull ,

They're all very successful now. This whole notion that bullies and assholes would be bagging my groceries and asking me "you want fries with that" in adulthood is BS.

dotslashme ,

I have no idea, I don't hang out with bullies.

DragonTypeWyvern ,

This thread reeks of Facebook user problems

Nemo ,

Definitely thought this was going to be about the other kind of baddies, in which case the answer is generally "they're married, with kids".

shinigamiookamiryuu OP ,

Wait, what kind were you thinking of?

4z01235 ,

It's also slang for hot people

frankPodmore ,
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The serious psychos are in and out of jail. The ones who were just kinda dicks sometimes (which to be honest probably includes me) are basically okay. And why shouldn't we be? Being a dick when you're still learning to be a person shouldn't carry a life sentence of any kind.

Alexstarfire ,

Why would I spend any effort on keeping tabs on people who made my life miserable?

GeekFTW ,
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This lol.

I'm fucking 40, anyone I grew up with who made my life miserable are people who I have had no exposure to or communications with since I graduated high school June 16th 2002. Anyone since then who makes my life miserable for more than a few minutes gets told to fuck off on the spot lol.

cobysev ,

You graduated on a Sunday? My school always did graduations on weekdays. I graduated about a week earlier than you did. Juuuust about to turn 40 myself.

And yes, I've either befriended my old bullies (a lot of them were just lashing out because they had a shitty home life/no one to listen to them), or they've gone off to live their lives and I never heard from them again.

My class is finally at the age where they're keeping tabs on who has died since the last reunion, and the list is very short with none of my former bullies on it.

GeekFTW ,
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Might have been a few days off with the date, it's been a minute lol.

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