@Susan60@pathfinder@actuallyautistic I find it so hard not to automatically side with the school, because it's the same story I heard all my life, even though I have evidence right in front of my eyes that, no, this is not the right approach for her.
It's taken me a while, but looking at this reaction of mine in terms of trauma just makes the most sense. At least that POV lets me make better decisions for our kid.
And then it becomes super obvious when I'm hard on myself, that it's the same.