@snoopy_jay@actuallyautistic my mother is abusive and my dad died when I was a young teen so my experience is coloured by that. I'm not close to them, no. It took me a very long time to get out of and away from the abuse.
But even for non abusive family members, we have nothing in common, we have never been close, I don't "get" it and tbh, the more I see other families the more I think this "family first" stuff is utter BS.
Family are the people who show up for you, genetics means nothing.