There's no King of the Alphabet People dictating and controlling exactly how everyone behaves. You're dealing with individuals who due to America's (and other) shitty government are dealing with a literal existential crisis. This is a terrifying position to be in. Unfortunately I consider it normal and expected that in a situation like this for people to feel cornered and viciously protective of their safe spaces.
It's not impossible to have a good faith discussion over the Internet. But not everyone wants to have those discussions. Not everyone wants to actually educate and recruit allies. Yes, notice I said "recruit" - it takes mutual effort to build that relationship, and that means both sides need to chill the fuck out and talk without alienating the other.