The criteria where you would want to "cancel the attachment" here, is when a link would have been inserted in it's stead.
I'm not upset. I am utterly bewildered at how a (presumably) functional adult in 2024 doesn't understand basic email or how cloud drives work.
In looking back I realize that you're one of those people who confuse emphasis with anger. I can't really help you there. Out of curiosity, are you the type of person that reads a sentence with a period at the end as aggressive in a text message?
You say something like:
"I think we should do x"
Person replies as:
"Ok that should be fine."
Do you read the response as aggressive (active or passive)?