Also, I admit that I am constructing a very emotional narrative in the blog post, which is a transparent attempt at emotionally manipulating people into feeling empathy and patience for the big scary person living with NPD. I find that when I use language that permits people to think of these issues as a matter of cold, hard, factual accuracy, their ability to empathise with oppressed peoples who they've been told to hate is deeply impaired. Stories are the language of human memory. They're easy to listen to, easy to remember, easy to think about, and easy to feel about. The human mind is optimised for processing stories more readily than facts. So I often try to present facts as stories.
In any case, thank you for the idea to ask Ian directly. I just did so, and I plan to heavily rethink My post if he agrees.