I don't need to feel the rape of my closest friend for it to affect me deeply even when it had happened so long before we met. So I'll call pass on your hasty judgment, thank you very much.
I could try to imagine why someone would stalk, but you'd probably say I'm finding them an excuse, so I'll also pass on trying.
And this is how you lose the sympathy and protection of those who could help you against creeps.