@Claydisarray@actuallyautistic I have an almost feral reaction to shoe salesmen trying to put shoes on my feet. I hate it, I HATE it, I will kick you in the snoot, get your hands away.
My mom had to explain at length that it was a form of pampering.
I think the waiter offering pepper falls under the same umbrella. I feel like it's a huge boundary violation, they're just trying to do their jobs.