dyani , @punishmenthurts @Zumbador @pathfinder @actuallyautistic yes, unfortunately we've all been hurt one too many times and so we have a lot of trauma that we can't just logic our way out of. that's the hard part.
but i don't believe every single human is going to hurt me, and by letting the bad ones reveal themselves while creating distance in myself from them, i can steer clear of them and stop trying to make them act better when it's just not possible for them.