Basically, it's helpful to me to imagine what i wish life was like, so I can compare what the difference is. The difference, IMO, is distancing myself from their reactions. I know people can still hurt me, but I think i'm going too far and stepping across a boundary that really is not my responsibility. I don't need to control my reactions just to try and make people treat me nicely. If they are a horrible person, let that be revealed!