It's almost like an equation. (A) We know we are autistic, that can't be changed. (B) We know we are already doing our very best, that's another factor. (C) We know how we want to feel at the end of an interaction: like we expressed ourselves, like we didn't mask to our detriment, like we are calm & not stressed about the interaction. (X) But we can't know what people are thinking, or how they will react.