I've had conversations with people about "how can you love the news so much? It's so negative and depressing!"
The best I've explained it is first and foremost you need to understand and appreciate we are a deeply flawed creature and there's a beauty in that. How could someone not love life for that? I am in a dingy alley having a tea right now I can smell garbage, I can hear the drone of the city around me, everything is stained. But if I look up the sky is beautiful and blue, cute girls are walking by, someone is smoking a flavoured cigar.
If you're unwilling to appreciate it all, you will struggle on appreciating any of it. Happiness is what you make of the world around you and if you are not willing to be happy inside no external event will change that.
Self-diagnosis doesn't help with relationships IMHO either and I mean that both from a personal and professional perspective.
Why you might ask?
YMMV but for me, I am an open book. Having the diagnosis meant I could talk to bosses when trying a new med, or explain to them when struggling. Knowing the diagnosis means you immediately diffuse an aspect of a challenge. For me, that has been immensely valuable.
Edit - wanted to add a common counterpoint is don't let work know because you can't predict people who will use your honesty against you. I will argue assholes are assholes and you can't live your life at the possibility someone will be a dick. Most people are good people. Trust on that.
I get where you're coming from with needing an official diagnosis for work accommodations, but none of your friends are really going to demand to see a doctor's note, so why would personal relationships depend on an official diagnosis?
The same reasons as from a professional experience. Yes they aren't going to pull the doctor's note but neither is work IMHO. What it does is provide more weight behind your words of "hey I'm not just googling this shit. I'm not just an insufferable asshole looking to validate that I am. I'm actually working with a psychologist."
Friends, just like coworkers, etc. care less of the diagnosis. They want to know you're working on you because I'd argue writ large people want to see you succeed. A self-diagnosis can help but it doesn't give you access to all the tools you may need to succeed so from the outside I would argue that official diagnosis matters. It means you now have someone else on your "team" be it a GP or a psychologist or whatever helping you navigate things.
To assholes yeah. I grew up in a pretty rural area and still drive through some holes in the wall regularly with traffic lights where I'm stopped and there's no traffic in miles. I still stop because that light is there for a reason. To save lives by enforcing some consistency in the rules.
Because there is no answer. All systems are corruptable and capitalism at least puts that corruption out in the open. I'd argue the problem is that government stopped giving a shit about its civilians instead choosing to trust in the market to solve all problems which we are learning that is not the case.
Things will not start changing until government grows a pair and starts doing what it's supposed to do.
That actually sounds like a good idea. Like Lemmy you have communities of common or popular languages like java or python which you can join and everyone there assists with questions. As it grows you might see a node for spring or flask get created for more niche discussions.
The other angle is the majority of Devs are just... Not good...
A good Dev in the situation you mention will design the solution needed now not the one you hope for later.
I'm saying this as someone who has been mired in scope creep and over engineering solutions many times in my life because "what if 5000 people need to use it at once?!"
In most cases all you need is a database, a single thread and a simple API. Build it and then as the problems come grow with them. Try to take into account issues of scale but realize you can't and shouldn't solve every scenario because there are too many variables which may never exist.
So I have been a part of this community for a while and it seems pretty quiet. I know Lemmy is not as big as Reddit so this community will always be much smaller but I kind of miss the activity on r/sysadmin. Infinity for Reddit still works for view only so I have been scrolling though posts on Reddit as some of the stories and...
Yup I've thought about this recently and I think the big problem is people expect Reddit when Reddit evolved over time. Here you have hundreds of subs existing where the user base doesnt match the need for it.
Use Canada as an example. I'm sure on Reddit Canada started first then as it grew the need for provinces and cities. Here we have Canada and I'm sure provinces and cities. Everyone should just be in Canada. When the user base grows it will naturally splinter to smaller like minded communities.
We are trying to rebuild the wheel when the wheel is not needed.
Colombian President Gustavo Petro has announced plans to cut diplomatic ties with Israel over its war in the Gaza Strip, which human rights advocates and other experts have warned could amount to genocide....
Among candidates for U.S. sanctions, Israel's Prison Service should be next on the list. This is apparently the realm where all the sadistic instincts of the minister of national security, Itamar Ben-Gvir, find their outlet....
I can't wait for my future coworkers who will be coding with AI without actually understanding the fundamentals of the language they're coding in. It's gonna get scary.
TIL about Wabi-sabi, the Japanese aesthetic worldview of accepting the simple, imperfect, and transient things in the world. Similar to kintsugi (repairing broken pottery with golden paste), it's abou ( en.wikipedia.org )
Self-diagnosis is valid if it helps you
Non-negotiable ( lemmy.world )
would you do this? ( i.imgur.com )
Why do teeth don't regenerate?
Seems pretty dumb in our biological design to not be able to regenerate such a functional (and also easily breakable) part of our body.
What's something weird and mostly useless that you can do with your body?
Gemini doesn't share Google search's AI advice on pizza cheese solutions? ( sh.itjust.works )
What Seasonal Things Should be Available Year Round?
What if the great filter of humanity is to overcome it's own nature that made it the dominant species of the planet and what if that is the universal great filter that makes the cosmos silent
Mexico City could run out of water in a month unless it rains ( www.businessinsider.com )
Mexico City could run out of drinking water by June 26, an event locals call "Day Zero."...
Pope Francis is gearing up for the first millennial saint, a web developer known as 'God's influencer' ( ca.news.yahoo.com )
Carlo Acutis, a teenage website developer, was attributed a second miracle by Pope Francis, advancing his path to becoming the first millennial saint.
Texas power prices briefly soar 1,600% as a spring heat wave is expected to drive record demand for energy ( fortune.com )
New addition, not sure on name yet... ( lemmy.world )
Neighbor across the street has a litter to re-home so we're doing our part!...
Detroit just had it's first population growth in 66 years. Huzzah!
Deactivating Facebook for just a few weeks reduces belief in fake news ( english.elpais.com )
Growing food bank lines are a sign that society has lost its way, a Groceries and Essentials Benefit would help the most vulnerable citizens ( www.thestar.com )
Nine million Canadians worry about where their next meal will come from.
Stack Overflow Users Are Revolting Against an OpenAI Deal | WIRED ( www.wired.com )
Members of the software developer community have reported deleting or altering their posts to prevent them from being used by OpenAI.
Let's do micro service ( sh.itjust.works )
r/sysadmin and the size of this community
So I have been a part of this community for a while and it seems pretty quiet. I know Lemmy is not as big as Reddit so this community will always be much smaller but I kind of miss the activity on r/sysadmin. Infinity for Reddit still works for view only so I have been scrolling though posts on Reddit as some of the stories and...
‘I am starting to panic about my child’s future’: climate scientists wary of starting families ( www.theguardian.com )
A fifth of female climate scientists who responded to Guardian survey said they had opted to have no or fewer children...
Over 100 far-right militias are coordinating on Facebook ( arstechnica.com )
Colombia to cut diplomatic ties with Israel over Gaza war, Petro says ( www.aljazeera.com )
Colombian President Gustavo Petro has announced plans to cut diplomatic ties with Israel over its war in the Gaza Strip, which human rights advocates and other experts have warned could amount to genocide....
Survey finds that 60 firms are responsible for half of world’s plastic pollution ( www.theguardian.com )
Palestinian released from Israeli prison describes beatings, sexual abuse and torture ( www.haaretz.com )
Among candidates for U.S. sanctions, Israel's Prison Service should be next on the list. This is apparently the realm where all the sadistic instincts of the minister of national security, Itamar Ben-Gvir, find their outlet....
Every Family Dinner Now ( jemmy.jeena.net )