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  • spujb OP ,

    yep i hope you read the post title and if not,, good news! lol

    spujb OP ,

    Ooh thanks for the correction. No, Pi-Hole does not block YouTube ads. Will edit the meme in a moment!

    spujb OP ,

    No disrespect at all if you use any of these apps! I just like encouraging folks to whitelist their favorite creators or else fund them directly, as none of that content appears for free :)

    spujb OP ,

    cheers mate 😹🫶

    spujb OP ,

    I don’t think something exactly like this but since a great many creators are on Patreon you could probably do some quick maths to set up a few recurring payments that total 5 USD :)

    (Thanks for the genuine question btw, everyone feels called out for some reason even though I am voicing all this as kindly as I can)

    spujb OP ,

    I genuinely think a lot of people just think YouTubers exist out of the void or something, that’s where the misunderstanding springs from :) fortunately a lot of people get it it’s just a misconception that >50% still have.

    spujb OP ,

    Yep! The corporations generally suck. However I recognize that some fans may not have the financial means to do direct support. Which is why I suggest whitelisting as one of many options :)

    spujb OP , (edited )

    Ads are a security risk

    True

    and blocking them doesn't hurt content creators.

    False. Using adblockers does directly impact creators’ CPM, which is the number used to determine how much they are paid.

    It is good to use ad blockers on the general web for safety. But if there are creators you enjoy, it’s good to consider either supporting them directly or whitelisting them if you don’t have the financial means to do direct payments. While doing so, you can also take additional safety steps like clearing your cookies frequently, or using an extension that scrambles your marketing data to make you less of a target.

    It’s not a black or white situation like you are framing it.

    spujb OP ,

    If you don't have the cash, there is a PDF copy on the first page of Google too. <3

    spujb OP ,

    I’m with you. For my part I am trying to just encourage a space of positivity under these memes, listening to women express their stories of course because that was the original point.

    But then once that is said and done, I don’t recommend we ever come back to the bear hypothetical, double down on it, or encourage any man to take it personally. Because yeah while it grabs attention, it’s also rhetorically just very inefficient compared to something as simple as posting bell hooks memes.

    spujb OP ,

    OP here, obviously I have no authority but it would be excellent if we could refrain from rehashing any of this debate here. It tends toward discussions that get my posts removed and I like them to stay up. <3

    If you can't hold yourself back, please continue to be respectful and excellent to one another (you are good so far 🙂).

    spujb OP ,

    happy for you dawg!!

    spujb OP ,

    You and @wizardbeard are both correct.

    Which, notice how bell hooks’ book isn’t titled “Femin_ists_ Are for Everybody”.

    Human beings are flawed to shit and no group or individual (not even bell hooks) should be put on a pedestal. Rather, it’s about finding the language and behaviors that do the most good at bringing equity and dignity for everyone.

    (PS if you read up on feminist theory you get the added bonus of now being able to call tf out of the so-called feminists who uphold the patriarchy under a phony name. With peace and love. 😉)

    spujb OP ,

    ✍️

    spujb OP ,

    honestly might just change the and to or

    should fix it 👍 ty

    spujb OP ,

    change made!

    spujb OP ,

    I have also seen temp bans put in for users abusing the report feature to win arguments

    spujb OP ,

    It’s probably not so much an oversight as a natural consequence of the open nature of Lemmy. Same reason DMs on here are not technically private. Even if you implemented an anonymous report feature, instance admins could probably identify the user easily.

    spujb OP ,

    Some instances allow a poster to see exactly who downvoted them.

    Source or example? 😧 This is new to me.

    Encouraging downvotes was a suggestion from the mods, but I will take this into account.

    spujb OP ,

    I would push back and say that if something is already so bad it’s worth reporting, it’s not weaponization to also simply downvote.

    Unless you were already weaponizing the report feature which is pretty much not a good thing lol.

    spujb OP ,

    I think the key is to take whatever space is necessary not to make the problem worse for mods. None of those verbs are requirements but rather suggestions to improve the quality of your report.

    I welcome any changes to the language to make that more clear though for sure. 👍

    spujb OP ,

    Yeah I agree, I think that you might be just applying your correct opinion to the wrong conversation 👍

    spujb OP ,

    Thanks for the example.

    Kbin users seeing who downvotes their posts is potentially an issue, but I don’t want to discourage downvoting bad or harmful content for just that reason. The end goal is that bad content gets removed and offending users acted on. So if a Kbin user is abusing the system to harrass or abuse, they should likewise reported and banned.

    spujb OP ,

    there is no rule 5 dawg

    spujb OP ,

    make better jokes imho 😛

    spujb OP ,

    Ooh thanks for the step by step. I was able to identify the one kbin user who downvoted me over the past 24 hours. 😜

    Yeah, given this I won’t recommend that kbin users downvote just anything since the platform doesn’t protect their privacy. Lemmy users should be good tho. Thanks! 😊

    spujb OP ,

    who on earth said terrorism? bwahaha

    spujb OP ,

    i don’t know dawg im just presenting the info the mods gave me 😭

    spujb OP ,

    Looks up ur modlog.

    Repeated warning comment removals before finally being banned for repeated violations

    Pardon me for not feeling much sympathy friend.

    spujb OP ,

    Okay already glad I made this post as I have definitely erred in this regard several times!

    spujb OP ,
    spujb OP ,

    yea we agree :)

    see this comment for further clarification https://lemmy.cafe/comment/5833000

    spujb OP ,

    Wonder if some women abusing men is patriarchy.

    Often true, yes.

    Or if some women shaming men for not being masculine enough is patriarchy.

    Very often true, yes.

    Or if some women asking for some sort of benefits over men is patriarchy.

    I don’t know what you are referencing but probably?

    If yes, the scope of "patriarchy" is so damn wide any reference to men (as in "patri-") would be fair to be removed, and then we'd talk about antisexism in general.

    You are absolutely free to do this. :)

    Besides, can we truly talk for the case of patriarchy when the oppression comes from previous generations of men leading to issues of currently living ones? Current men are often oppressed by those measures, not empowered, and that contradicts the very notion of it.

    You are definitely in the right here! And these stories are often underrepresented in feminist/antisexist spaces. There is a community for this if you were interested: !mensliberation

    I'm always a bit confused by this desire of women to put entire antisexism movement under the feminism umbrella no matter what.

    I think it’s more of a tradition thing than anything. As in, feminism being the first antisexist theory, all other antisexist theories will find their historical roots in what feminists first described. But a valid insight.

    Why is it so important? What causes this desire for women alone to lead the way? Is it some sort of power struggle, fear of men stealing the topic and pushing another agenda?

    No, and this is where I encourage you to be careful. You are reading far too much into a name. See above again for what I believe is more of an occams razor explanation.

    We are here, and we recognize the issues of men and, to the extent we can, the issues of women. Let us fight our fight without trying to make it about women. We talk about men, and would be happy to have a community of both men and women to solve what can't be solved on one side.

    Fully agree! I wish you the best in this and I’ll be there alongside you. ❤️

    spujb OP ,

    Good question!

    Handling this question is tricky, but I'll give it a shot with some examples. It's worth noting that there's often overlap between different systems, where those in power in one area also benefit disproportionately in others. (This concept is a key part of intersectionality theory.)

    • White supremacy/racism
    • Capitalism/exploitation
    • Imperialism/colonialism
    • Ableism
    • Heteronormativity/homophobia/transphobia
    spujb OP ,

    For sure! many such cases on the internet ❤️ have a good one

    spujb OP ,

    No that’s kind of the opposite of the point I was making. The patriarchy is only one of all those systems of oppression that I listed.

    There is a lot of crossover, yes, but I am not equivocating any of those. They are generally distinct.

    spujb OP ,

    Some of this is starting to get beyond my rhetorical capacity so I won’t pretend to have answers for your questions here, I apologize.

    Maybe other commenters can give you satisfactory answers, but in the meantime I’ll refer you to this book by bell hooks (free PDF). Should get you 99.9% of the way there. :)

    spujb OP ,

    Funny, but don’t ever forget the movement.

    Awareness and advocacy may seem pointless until it precipitates in holding the oppressors accountable. Next time, hopefully, it will be even more significant.

    spujb OP , (edited )
    1. trans women are women
    2. i have personally seen women getting harassed into deleting their comments and even accounts for expressing their lived experience under patriarchy. men literally came into their replies and brigaded them until they were forced to leave. so you are either misinformed or intentionally lying.
    spujb OP , (edited )

    The initial expression of the poll regarding the bear hypothetical was categorically not intended as bait, but rather a sincere reflection of women's lived experiences.

    The further out from the onset of the trend we get, yes, I agree with being more critical of those using this meme to get a rage reaction. However, while it is not the perfect rhetorical feminist meme, it is crucial to ensure that women are not silenced or even asked to soften their language when they speak out against sexual assault and rape culture.

    spujb OP ,

    I mean something can not be intended as bait, but still be bait, you know?

    No. What you are doing here is silencing the experiences of women, whether intentional or not. Be so very careful friend. Listen to women, and just move on if you don't have the emotional bandwidth for it. There is no excuse for tone policing the expression of people who have been violently attacked.

    spujb OP ,

    This is where you should probably pause and listen to the reasoning they are giving. Here is one:

    Reasons varied from “The worst the bear will do is kill me,” to “At least I know the bear wants to kill me,” with a general theme seeming to be that whatever tangible threat the bear posed was preferable to the uncertainty of wondering whether or not a random man would assault them.

    spujb OP ,

    Rape culture means that women who survive SA often have to go through a hellish psychosocial process wherein they must convince cops, judges, juries, friends and family that they were not "asking for it."

    This is not me talking, this is something that has been expressed to me by multiple individuals. That they would rather undergo horrific mutilation by an animal than deal with that process.

    I encourage you not to laugh, but to actually self-interrogate what this means. Because so far you have only expressed that you do not, in fact, understand.

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