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theautisticcoach , 11 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

I have spent my adult life stressing the need for autistics not to block out allistics from our life - promoting the idea that we don't need to live a life apart - that this world, with everyone in it, has what to offer for us.

This is becoming increasingly harder to defend.

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theautisticcoach , 11 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

When NTs talk about themselves all day long and we try to empathize with them we are told we are self-centered.

When we mention one tiny part of our life to NTs, we are told we are self-centered.

When we voice a need to an NT, we are told we are self-centered.

Interesting.

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theautisticcoach , 12 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

how do my autistic comrades combat loneliness?

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chevalier26 , 13 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actualyautistic How do y’all deal with people who say that autism doesn’t even exist, and that it “suddenly” cropped up over the past few generations because people have been “mentally coddled”? Somewhat in the same vein as “there is a diagnosis epidemic” but much more extreme.

chevalier26 , 13 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic I’m in shock right now and feel like I could burst into tears…my parents and I are out at lunch, and my mom just asked me out of the blue, “what gives you joy?” And I said, “why are you asking me that?” She essentially responded by telling me that to her, I showed no evidence that I had any joy in my life, and that there is nothing that makes me happy.

I’m at a loss for words.

chevalier26 , 13 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic It really bothers me when I tell my friends or family about something that upset me, or an incident that made me feel embarrassed/humiliated and they respond in a way that makes me feel even more upset, embarrassed, and humiliated. Things like “how did you even do that? 😂” or “that’s not even a big deal” don’t help and make me feel even worse. It feels a bit like clapping at a waiter/waitress when they drop a plate.

johnnyprofane1 , 14 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Why does New York state hate #autistic kids?

Why does progressive #AOC look the other way? And refuses to investigate?

Progressive @JamaalBowmanNY D-NY... #Autistic kids are abused in YOUR district.
Do you care?

@AOC D-NY... This is your state.
No investigation?

#ActuallyAutustic @RepThomasMassie R-KY, @BriscoeCain R-TX, @RepBenham D-PA, @yuhline D-NY...

We are your people.
Protect us.

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The story of Shrub Oak is a stark reminder of the need for oversight in private schools, especially those caring for vulnerable populations. Stay informed and support investigative journalism.

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punishmenthurts , 16 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

#EvolutionBaby
#ActuallyAutistc
@actuallyautistic
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Thinking out loud:
I think the forever human mind, the Autistic one, the pre-Allistic human mind has an evolved brain path for evolution, which really only means change.
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Many Indigenous cultures understand the interplay between creatures and environments still.
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Far more close to home, even the authors of Genesis didn't seem to have forgotten it completely yet, they had the forms of life appearing in the same order we give them today with our science.
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I don't think Wallace and Darwent (sorry, a joke, like "Grommet") "discovered it," as such - except that the Allistic mind will forever be "discovering it," I think they are Allistic because that evolved understanding was replaced with something else, represented by the "Human Nature," business.
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. . . sorry. Carry on with your knitting. ❤️

niamhgarvey , 16 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Going on holiday in 2 weeks and my brain won't relax until I pack but if I pack I will run out of summer clothes for the next 2 weeks so I am now stumped about how to proceed.
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autism101 , 17 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Do you have any clothing routines? I own eight gray plain t-shirts with no tags which I love. I often will just wear them over and over again.

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @actuallyautistic

pathfinder , 17 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic

I often describe myself as a minimal speaker. It's because whilst I can speak, unless seriously overwhelmed, I vastly prefer not to. In large part, this is because the effort of speaking, and it is, more often than not, a real effort for me, rarely seems worth it. Since realising I am autistic, I have come to realise why this could be and also why communicating on here is so much easier and not just because it's text, because I struggle with that elsewhere too.

Language, whether text or verbal, is communication. Whether that be communicating thoughts, or feelings. Expressing emotions, or ideas. It is the medium and not the source. The source is where these things are coming from and it is what shapes our use of the medium and therefore in large part the assumptions we make about how others are using it and therefore the likely success of any communication.

Enter the double-empathy theory and the general acknowledgement that autism is a fundamental difference in the ways in which our brains work, often exampled by describing it as a different operating system. It means that whilst I am using the same language to talk with allistics, how we're both using it, the ends and purpose, even the nature of the information being transmitted, can often be fundamentally different.

An example I have used, is to compare it to a foreign language speaker with a reasonable understanding of the local language, but having to work incredibly hard to keep up with a conversation and having to constantly check their translations and whether or not they were making the right replies and not offending anyone. But to be truly accurate, you would also have to add in a cultural divide, a root level difference in the expectation and assumptions they are making about life and how this was also shaping their communication.

This, I think, is why speaking has always been so hard for me. Why it's always been so much of an effort and often without point. It's not that I am speaking a foreign language, or that my words themselves can't be understood. But that the information I am attempting to convey and the intended purpose of that information, is so far out of phase with the expectations of those around me, that miscommunication, confusion and the all too familiar fallout becomes almost inevitable. It's also why speaking here is so much easier.

Effective communication is more than just using the right words, it's about realising the intent and purpose behind those words. About understanding where someone is coming from as much as what they are trying to say. And that, as the saying goes, takes two to tango.

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foo , 17 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

I'm compelled to attend a mandatory workshop being run by a business psychologist. Is there any evidence to show that popular psychology is invalid when applied to workers on the autistic spectrum? Because it really seems totally irrelevant and nonsensical , not to mention uncomfortable levels of sharing personal thoughts with other workers who haven't earned my respect @actuallyautistic

punishmenthurts , 17 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

trying to tell the world, it starts with a pat on the bum, but it is not a static world of Natures, it is evolution and when you protect a thing and grow it, a pat on a bum becomes the Holocaust.
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Time is almost irrelevant, you have principles, a function, and it WILL HAPPEN.
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If this seems soon, only ninety years since last time, or it seems long, twelve thousand years. doesn’t matter, you WILL GET THERE, and we pretty much have. This is evolution, you’re changing things with every thing you do, creating environments with everything you make.
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Evolution means stuff matters. There is no “cheating,” it, you become what you do, for real.
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It’s like that one about “I don’t know how to tell you you should care about people,” I don’t know how to tell you that everything is real and matters.
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dramypsyd , 17 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Dating while autistic problems 🤣

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chevalier26 , 18 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Somehow got into an argument earlier about fractions with my parents, especially the fraction 15/16. I said that 7.5/8 is the same thing as 15/16, because they can be converted to each other by multiplying or dividing the numerator and denominator by 2.

My mom basically said, no, that's not right because it's not a "proper fraction" which doesn't make sense to me. The math checks out, and numerators can have decimal integers. Is there something I'm missing?

dyani , 18 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@punishmenthurts @Zumbador @pathfinder @actuallyautistic yes, unfortunately we've all been hurt one too many times and so we have a lot of trauma that we can't just logic our way out of. that's the hard part.

but i don't believe every single human is going to hurt me, and by letting the bad ones reveal themselves while creating distance in myself from them, i can steer clear of them and stop trying to make them act better when it's just not possible for them.

Zumbador , 18 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

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I'm trying to figure out something about dealing with /avoiding conflict.

When I'm in conflict with someone, I'll often avoid confronting them, because I don't trust them. I might like them, but I don't trust their ability to respond appropriately.

I find that honest conversations mean making myself vulnerable to some extent, and if someone has hurt me, or is annoyed with me, it doesn't feel safe to be that vulnerable.

I reserve conversations like that for people who are very close to me, that I trust, like my husband and my father.

I usually hide my anger and annoyance, because it feels like they don't deserve to see my honest emotions.

But I don't think this is a healthy strategy.

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Ilovechai , 2 months ago to autisticadvocacy group

Singing helps regulate my nervous system.
#happysaturday #goodvibes
#stim #actuallyautistic
#karaoke #ballads #singing #fedimusic #karaokenight
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