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punishmenthurts

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late hatched Autist invader on the Wet Coast of Canada, child of the 60s and believed it all. The Hatching is sprinkled through both blogs, and the theory starts with spanking in 2014 and evolves to what, I guess The Antisocialization Theory of Neurodiversity or something by now - but don't try to read it all, it's a mess. Just ask me.

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filmfreak75 , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic i do a lot of meeting requests and receive a lot of emails that start like this:

"Good morning!

I hope you all had excellent weekends.”

I start mine like this, and because of this, am considered an asshole:

“[Name] would like to set up a one hour call on this topic. Please let me know if any of the following times work:”

…because heaven forbid we be efficient and clear in our communication

punishmenthurts ,
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you don't want me trying to conform to that.
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"Hope you all had great weekends! Well, except Brad. I hope Brad spent it in an ER waiting room. Anyway -"

punishmenthurts , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I thought I wanted to be a writer and write fiction and I’ve had all sorts of theories about why I couldn’t and didn’t, but I suppose neurotyoe settles it, what fiction is, the purpose of it, the formats and the rules, what a story is, is all Allistic.
I mean, they have their idea of conflict and conflict resolution, don’t they.
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I’d be trying to “change the game,” or some shit and wondering why nobody bought it. 🙄😀
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I want to argue but I'm tired.
Both these things are true in different conversations

AlexSanterne , to AcademicChatter group
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Modern is perversed.

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punishmenthurts ,
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evolution, Baby 😀

Uair , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I finally figured it out!

https://open.substack.com/pub/poloniousmonk/p/finally-my-life-makes-some-kind-of?r=1xr9v7&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

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@MxVerda @Uair @actuallyautistic
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I have this theory that everybody feels forever and unfairly put upon and that the world is full of delusional people who blame trans people for it, and queer people for it, and brown people for it and Obama for it and China for it and people of various religions for it and that's like half the country, most of which are not in treatment for this 😇

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@MxVerda @Uair @actuallyautistic
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I had my theory about childrearing that led me there, I wasn't thinking about paranoia when I saw that every spanked person likely feels this way, but that train of thought, Antisocialization Theory, just keeps giving and giving.
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It doesn't mean some folks couldn't use some help, of course. But I suspect uair is way ahead of us about all that.

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if anyone is able to follow this, for me, the big point, the Big Autistic Point, is that for all those "normal" bigots and for people with wild stories like this, IT IS THE SAME FUNCTION, the same function that pretty much everyone goes through - but if you don't know about it, one looks, "normal," and one looks classic mad.
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We haven't even looked at values yet, which one is harmful, or more harmful, and that's not a slam dunk for the normal version.

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@MxVerda @Uair @actuallyautistic
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my own biography, which I think is real, isn't all that much easier to believe, and despite that I do, I still find it . . . ridiculous, like can it really be true, and even if it's "true," is it really part of reality? Do I really have to deal with it?
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I'll try to lay it out:
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My mother lied to me and maybe to a lot of people about my origins, about my being a Thalidomide baby - there's some low odds right there, there are supposed to be some one hundred Thalidomide victims in Canada, of a population of thirty-some million. It wasn't even approved here, so the first thing has long odds.
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Dad was odd man out in the family, Mom and her sisters and my sisters all hated him, and poisoned me against him and I have since come to believe that I have his Autism, so they separated my Autistic Dad from his kids, separated me from my Autistic Dad and kept me for themselves, like a pet, like a little Autistic Thalidomide baby R-word, alone among the Neurotypicals.
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Autistics aren't allowed families, we don't deserve our own children, this is how it has been for my Dad, and also for me, the same thing happened to me, the ex hated me and the kids grew up hating me and blaming me, same same.
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And then the kids showed up Autistic, so it's happened to them too, Autistic kids aren't allowed access to their Autistic Dad, so somebody or something for some reason has done to me what uair says, dogged my steps, always been there to make sure I don't make any human contacts.
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I totally relate. 💔 ❤️
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kkffoo , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I found this way of looking at autistic and allistic communication preferences quite clear and interesting. https://youtu.be/H6Wf8Q3e6lg?si=acKu3fQaGPyEy9bf
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@callunavulgaris @joshourisman @kkffoo @actuallyautistic
nothing personal or anything, but that reality is the majority's third priority means we're all completely buggered.
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That anyone has to apologize to them for anything is just so totally wrong.

Dr_Obvious , to ActuallyAutistic group German

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I don't know if it's related to the hypo-/hypersensitivity topic, stimulation or whatsoever. But I really like strong tasting stuff. Spicy, salty, hot, sour, complex, whatsoever.

After just now taking a sip from a pickle glass it came to my mind that I even took shots of vinegar in the past, because I liked the taste. I considder it so odd that I wondered if anybody out there did it too.

Did you ever fancied a shot of vinegar?

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@sillyCoelophysis @Dr_Obvious @Konstantin @actuallyautistic
It’s a test for acid problems, if the vinegar feels good, you’re OK, maybe alkaline, if it hurts, you got maybe too much acid, right?

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@Dr_Obvious @sillyCoelophysis @Konstantin @actuallyautistic
that, but also, I read it somewhere and it makes some sense that if you’re hurting, it’s just a simple
test, more acid, more hurt might tell you acid was the problem. I never bought into the alkaline body idea much, but I have acid problems.

theautisticcoach , to ActuallyAutistic group
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The deficit model of autism in DSM-5 dehumanizes us by focusing on external traits rather than internal experiences. It's also based in Nazi race science.

How can we push for more relevant diagnostic criteria?

Do we even need it?

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@Uair @Tooden @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic
and it’s clear they are certain I can’t understand a word they say either

haui , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic controversial thought:

calling an autistic person naive is an ableist slur as it is negatively connotated and targets a persons unchangeable traits.

Feel free to disagree and explain if you think another definition would make mote sense.

As always please refrain from ad hominem attacks.

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@haui @actuallyautistic
I sort of have my own framing but you’re either naive or you’re what, duplicitous. Their framing is that not lying and assuming everyone else is, “pathological.”
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Depends on your POV, your neurology, but it’s not a world away from that protesting a genocide is “racism,” is it. Frustrating. Conform to the lying, what is the matter with you.

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@haui @actuallyautistic neurology IS ideology, the labels and descriptions are very ideological, but they’re in charge, so it’s only “ideology,” for us, in one direction, in their language.
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We need our own language where we are the default and they are pathological.

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@haui @actuallyautistic
they say some lying is necessary, for social lubrication, but perhaps from another neurology, lying is less like lube and more like sand, I might see it the other way, that the lies don’t lubricate, they grind people down.

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@haui @actuallyautistic
I’m not happy with this, it’s awkward and flawed - but it has to be, trying to talk across neurotypes, things don’t work, that’s sort of the point.
Again, it’s crap, but it’s a start?

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