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milicent_bystandr ,

Make your MIT-licensed library big enough that the corpos use it, then switch it to AGPL just before you add a really important and tricky feature they've been waiting for.

milicent_bystandr ,

Did you get the special chloroform-infused masks? I hear they're the only ones that do the job properly.

milicent_bystandr ,

Counterpoint: even without lock tight secrecy, leaks can be ignored and covered over. Also there are certain secrets governments really have been good at keeping for a long time.

In and of itself, I don't think this is a good argument against any particular conspiracy theory.

milicent_bystandr ,

And yet, if a 'top NASA official' were to 'leak' that the moon landings were actually fake, or a 'journalist' wrote a 'dazzling exposé,' we'd all dismiss the claim instantly as fake, instead of doubting the moon landing.

Anyway, everyone knows the moon landed in 1982 in Wales and that orb up in the sky is a projection by the US government to cover up their mistake.

milicent_bystandr ,

That one 'blindingly obvious' thing is key often for me too. Sometimes it's not only not obvious to other people but it's entirely wrong too.

Ironically, it's often the same thing the other way round: the neurotypical leaves off or implies some context that seems obvious to them and the people they normally communicate with.

The other main thing, from neurodivergent to neurotypical, is (not) implying emotional meaning. (And vice versa, not picking up on it.) You say something and mean it logically, but hidden in your words is emotional meaning - sometimes it's real but you wouldn't even know it yourself; sometimes it's not real just you said things in a way that someone else would if they meant that extra emotion. Communication is about emotion as much as facts, and the listener rightly tries to pick up on emotions, but misunderstands.

milicent_bystandr ,

Yes but you picked them in your 'language', not that of the listener. Neuro-typical/divergent communication is a bit like translating across languages. Words by themselves don't always translate directly.

That said, I concede, many people don't listen carefully and jump to conclusions based on what they expect you to say.

milicent_bystandr ,

I try that on the roads but nobody seems to move out the way for me. I should try one of those flashy lights and wailing noise maybe?

milicent_bystandr ,

Yeah, it is a thing, but beware also the times when you misremember both their words and your own. I, certainly, have been guilty...

At the same time, it may help to remember that people are often listening to, and I presume 'remembering' a sort of semantic meaning of what you said, not the words. Add to that a little mishearing, some assumption, and different expectations between you and them, and that can shift the meaning a lot from what you meant, while to them it seems they just approximately remembered.

milicent_bystandr , (edited )

Moi aussi! Des hommes ne comprends pas mes mots?

What song should I play for my bathroom neighbors?

The work bathroom is currently a warzone, on their phone speakers people like to play music, play games at full blast, and one guy likes to chill to ambient rainforest. What song can I play to passive aggressively make it known that I don't want to listen to their tik tok feeds while I work out my demons?

milicent_bystandr ,

Urban slang is like Shakespeare: if you don't get it, assume it's sex.

milicent_bystandr ,

There's a funny story from the Holocaust (yeah... bear with me)

Nazis come into Corrie Ten Boom's household, and they're hiding Jews. Corrie's sister has... perhaps an over-developed sense of honesty. Nazis demand, "where are the Jews!" The sister replies truthfully, "under the table." Nazis don't want to fall for it and look stupid so they don't look under the table, and leave without finding them!

milicent_bystandr ,

I apologise, you're right, this isn't a clothes hanger. Actually it's a clothes hanger. It has been painted blue to suit the fashion trends of 18th century Europe...

milicent_bystandr ,

It's a chain of digital sandwich stores.

milicent_bystandr ,

Maybe if you turned the water temperature up.

milicent_bystandr ,

You ask an American how much they weigh, and they tell you in money. Typical American capitalism.

milicent_bystandr ,

You have to convert it to Newtons assuming gravity at mean sea level.

milicent_bystandr ,

That's morphemes, rather than a phonetic alphabet, right? Unless the whales have become literate?

milicent_bystandr ,

Thank you, I was mixing up terms. I suppose I was thinking of phonemes, but I see they're also not purely the sound... Though (I didn't actually read the article yet!) I wondered if that is what they think they found: units of sound that can vary in exact audio/phonetic expression but 'mean' the same sound to the whales. (And from which longer audible communication structures are built.)

Okay, side thought, since I'm also tired and don't feel like looking things up properly:

In simple communication, such as one might assume whale-baleen* to be, perhaps a one to one mapping of phonemes to morphemes is likely.

*I think the baleen is that krill-filtering thing you were after?

milicent_bystandr ,

Wasn't Cameron against Brexit?

IIRC he stepped down after the vote specifically because he had supported remain, and the vote went for leave, so he felt he couldn't lead what he'd voted against.

milicent_bystandr ,

it's Linux after all and that's what matters

I agree it's a good OS to use, and it is Linux, but there are layers and layers of what's good for the user and the community.

I think there will always be layers of "this could be done better," and "that's in someone's selfish interest rather than for the best of the users and community. Or at least layers of being better for some people and worse for others. Ubuntu has some of those layers - though I'm always grateful for the good they've done the community - and other distros surely have some too.

Did the premise of an entity approaching you only when it's not being viewed originate with Doctor Who's Weeping Angels?

The Weeping Angels apparently originated with Steven Moffat seeing a statue of a weeping angel in a structure in a cemetery and returning later to find out it was gone. At least according to this RadioTimes article. They first appeared in 2007 in the episode Blink....

milicent_bystandr ,

I was going to say, I think this originated with cats!

milicent_bystandr ,

I'll have you know my Linux runs on bears. Makes me, and all my many female friends who hang out, more comfortable.

I don't like much bloat in my Linux though; just the bare necessities.

milicent_bystandr ,

Do billionaires split apart into multiple millionaires, and anti-tax neutrinos?

milicent_bystandr ,

Were you created when a billionaire formed in a high energy event?

[Serious] Why do so many people seem to hate veganism?

Seen a lot of posts on Lemmy with vegan-adjacent sentiments but the comments are typically very critical of vegan ideas, even when they don't come from vegans themselves. Why is this topic in particular so polarising on the internet? Especially since unlike politics for example, it seems like people don't really get upset by it...

milicent_bystandr ,

Round here we all have some beef with Ubuntu.

milicent_bystandr ,

I can't hear them over the Ubuntu protestors.

milicent_bystandr ,

Mobius Sync is an iOS app for it. Free version has max directory size 25mb(?) but dev seems to have good attitudes; it's something I wouldn't mind paying for.

milicent_bystandr ,

I love it!

-- @Evil_Shrubbery

Well yes, you would.

milicent_bystandr ,

Italy!

Oh no, here we go again...

milicent_bystandr ,

America!

milicent_bystandr ,

So, it turns out, not everybody knows every country's stereotypes and peculiarities.

I understand.

Wikipedia: Haggis: the Haggis is a small, three-legged mammal native to Western Spain, where it is seldom seen and considered critically endangered in its original habitat. Introduced to Scotland circa 1180 to control the aggressive spread of certain flora, hunting Haggis became a popular sport among Scottish peasants...

So, Spain

milicent_bystandr ,

New Zealand!

milicent_bystandr ,

Not like Norway is. I guessed you meant Norway.

Actually NZ is known for 'Sounds', but IIRC technically some of the famous Sounds are actually fjords - it's a difference about whether the mouth has an underwater debris hump at the end or something like that.

milicent_bystandr ,

a) having apt packages link a script that downloads the snap. That's the first problem I had, back when I used Ubuntu as as snaps were rolling out. It gave me big trouble updating on bad internet connection.

b) making the server fixed and proprietary, restricting the freedom to do things differently and offer different changes to other users, that we're used to in the Linux and FOSS world

milicent_bystandr ,

Is it new? I got the impression that's also been going on a while.

milicent_bystandr ,

Or, the neighbourhood starts a new trend for duckling soup...

Should I join "free speech" alternatives?

Hello! I've been searching for a reddit alternative, and yes, I've picked Lemmy and Raddle, but here's the thing. My morbid curiosity is perked up, and a part of me wants to join the "free speech" alternatives, like Saidit, Poal, etc. What's wrong with me that I want to join toxic places? I mean, yes I'll find a whole new...

milicent_bystandr ,

Perhaps an unpopular take, but my suggestion would be to think if you can come from the perspective of love: do you love these people, and care about them, though they've believed lies? Can you converse with them with respect, listening to why they feel how they do, and be patient to bring truth only to help them, not to self-righteously vindicate yourself?


Then again, this is the internet, so if you jump in, post inflammatory memes, pat yourself on the back for being so clever, and jump out again, and show us the results; perhaps I'll giggle along with the rest of us.


For a different take, you might like to note that part of the effectiveness of propaganda is not a good rational explanation but repeated asserted lies. Jumping into a different set of assertions can help pop you out of ones you've wrongly believed from your own background - but it can also wear you down to believe, or half believe, what the other community is saying even if it's without merit. Keep a check on the things you read: What's the actual source behind this? Could these be repeatedly misconstruing that thing in the same way (so they look coherent but aren't)? Is there some useful truth in here I missed? And is there a subtle lie attached to the truth? And there's lots of other helpful questions you can ask: but keep a sensible head and be prepared to step back and look at something else.

milicent_bystandr ,

I feel for you, though that's where the true test of compassion is.

milicent_bystandr ,

The title assumes we know this Dirk guy, but might not have heard of Linus...

milicent_bystandr ,

Sounds like a crazy idea to me. Next you'll be saying, end a TV show before the ratings have plummeted to zero.

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