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Multidisciplinary nerd. Independent catholic. Extremely cool and funny. Some labels for the kind of human I am: #Christian #trans #lesbian #maths #haskell #hacker #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #anarchism #antifa #syndicalism. Learning to play and referee #RollerDerby.
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olena , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I don’t operate the world putting everything into defined folders and boxes of clear tree-like structure (like I do on my laptop).
I operate the world by slapping infinite amount of tags on everything (which do not exist independently like in some tag cloud, but are rather interconnected in their own ways), and then tag-filtering or pulling the chain of tags when I need.
Sure, from outside that looks like a totally random chaotic pile, but it has its own structure, just the structure is different to what is usually pictured as a structure.

I know, autists are usually pictured as the ones requiring the boxes, but is it necessarily the boxes autists crave, or other forms of structure also work?





@actuallyautistic

melivia ,
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@DoctorDisco @pathfinder @olena @actuallyautistic I was in the Oxfam bookshop last week, and found a book about the Great Game (i.e. 19th-century geopolitics) in the games section. I moved it to history.

theautisticcoach , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I have spent my adult life stressing the need for autistics not to block out allistics from our life - promoting the idea that we don't need to live a life apart - that this world, with everyone in it, has what to offer for us.

This is becoming increasingly harder to defend.

@actuallyautistic

melivia ,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic It’s becoming more and more apparent to me that I don’t actually know many allistics.

melivia ,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic And if you consider the number of my close friends who aren’t either Autistic or ADH or both, it becomes vanishingly small.

Zumbador , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic

Here's something that causes friction between me and my family.

Someone asks me to make a decision about something I don't have a strong preference, but they want me to have a preference.

"do you want x or y? "

Saying "I don't care" comes across as rude, and even softening it as "I don't really have a preference" or turning it back to them by saying "what do you think?" isn't appreciated. They want me to care.

I understand that they want me to choose so they don't have to do that emotional labour. That's fair. But often when I do choose (at random), they try to change my mind, and then I'm back to square one because I don't really care, and I don't want to lie!

A honest answer would be "I'm depressed, I don't want to exist. Putting on a polite face is taking up all my effort, expecting me to actually care is beyond my capacity"

But that's too heavy for most interactions.

I'm not sure what I'm asking for here, just writing it out.

melivia ,
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@Zumbador @actuallyautistic I usually phrase it as ‘happy either way’ or ‘both of those sound good to me’, which mean the same thing but are less likely to be taken as a criticism.

johnnyprofane1 , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Roots of the Weird:
Playlist for the ‘Divergent Ear
Geek On. Tune In. 'Diverge Out...

Two versions of a possible logo. Whaddya think?

L8r, g8r

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

A vibrant logo for 'Roots of the Weird: A Divergent Ear Playlist' featuring a surreal Joshua tree intertwined with a menacing graboid, set against a striking magenta and blue gradient background. The Joshua tree, with its twisting branches and roots, captures the essence of uniqueness and divergence. The graboid, reminiscent of a creature from the movie Tremors, adds an edgy and rebellious touch. The bold text 'Roots of the WEIRD' stands prominently below, enhancing the modern and eye-catching aesthetic. The vivid colors and unique design reflect the neurodivergent theme, inviting viewers to geek on, tune in, and 'diverge out.' This logo combines natural elements with a contemporary twist, making it both engaging and memorable for a diverse audience.

"A vibrant logo for 'Roots of the Weird: A Divergent Ear Playlist' featuring a surreal Joshua tree intertwined with a menacing graboid, set against a soothing earth tone gradient background. The Joshua tree, with its twisting branches and roots, captures the essence of uniqueness and divergence. The graboid, reminiscent of a creature from the movie Tremors, adds an edgy and rebellious touch. The bold text 'Roots of the WEIRD' stands prominently below, enhancing the modern and eye-catching aesthetic. The organic colors and unique design reflect calming sensory input, inviting viewers to geek on, tune in, and 'diverge out.' This logo combines natural elements with a contemporary twist, making it both engaging and memorable for a diverse audience."
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    • melivia ,
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    @johnnyprofane1 @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd Both are good. I think I marginally prefer the blue to the brown.

    lifewithtrees , to ActuallyAutistic group
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    A job post that explicitly requires someone with "high executive functioning"

    Is this ?

    @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

    melivia ,
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    @lifewithtrees @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd Yes.

    Claydisarray , to ActuallyAutistic group
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    My recent diagnosis is explaining a lot for me.

    For instance, I've always been super confused why a waiter appears to crack a tiny amount of black pepper from an enormous pepper mill.

    It's hardly a precious spice and why can't I just do it myself?? :blobawkward:

    @actuallyautistic

    melivia ,
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    @Claydisarray @actuallyautistic My grandfather (also probably Autistic) once did ask if he could do it himself—the waiter let him.

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