Edit: A few people have interpreted the title as serious, so I wanna clarify that it was meant as a sarcastic joke about how little sense the neurotypical world makes to me, but it is still legitimately me asking for help understanding said neurotypical world....
I agree with so many folks on this thread- your friend is pushing one set of social queues that they abide by, but that isn't everyone.
I think this has more to do with communication over text, as there are NO physical cues to help gauge tone. I'm not autistic, however when texting I've learned to practice mirroring for each person I chat with. If I notice they end their sentences without punctuation, I'll adopt that. If I notice more emojis, I'll have fun with that, or hold off if it seems that they don't use them.
A big one for me is using "!". I usually will use "!" to signal excitement/ friendly tone, however I've learned some people see it as an angry tone and thought I was freaking out about what they said.
When I talked to my therapist, he noted with his clients that 90% of disputes start over social media/ texting. I almost lost a friend when they sent me a lecture from a professor talking about the Israeli/ Palestine conflict. A few days later I saw a funny music composition video titled "old MacDonald had a lobotomy". I thought I was just sending a funny video, but she thought it was in response to her video, and I got a stern text that I had to clear up.
Very fair! Also I'm learning it's fine to stomp on the eggshells and send a text saying "so hey, here's what I mean when I say K" or something like that so the people you chat with are on the same page. It seems awkward, but also could be a way to avoid even more awkward situations later.
I would take a step back: why are fetishes a thing? It's a difficult thing to research, especially since western society is reluctant to talk openly (or even privately to researchers) about their sex life. In this thread people talked about how childhood trauma could be a factor in kink, and that would make sense.
I can tell you from my experience, types of fetishes are not a biological response so much as social response. For me, I know many of my fetishes are simply based on the fact that it's a social taboo. If people walked around in gimp suits and nipple clips all the time in public, I would find that kink far less interesting.
My guess is good as any, but I think if being kinky with a partner has an evolutionary advantage, it would be about social cohesion. When you show someone this dark side of you that you would never show other people, you strengthen a bond with your partner (assuming they are into it as well).
In the case of vore fetish, my partner doesn't actually want to be eaten, rather she likes this version of submission where she is seen as "delicious". Once sex is over and we return to our senses, we maintain our sense of self preservation.
Personally I would never eat someone else, but playing this role is fun for me since I can get into a Dom role and do something society would frown upon if it was real.
With that said, I find in any kink play, aftercare is SUPER important. We say fucked up things while having sex all the time, but afterwards we make sure to assure eachother it was just an act. Communication during and then afterwards is so important to reinforcing the relationship when enjoying kink play.
Israel is defeated like the US was defeated in Afghanistan. It's not that the Taliban managed to get tanks rolling through DC, but they killed our international image and took away prescious time, money, energy, and lives. They suffered magnitudes more than us, so just like in any war, there were no winners.
We keep saying "we don't negotiate with terrorists", but I'm starting to think that we should consider negotiating with terrorists*.
'*Understanding the definition of terrorist is very subjective
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Just realize:...
Why are neurotypicals in charge of making up the social rules? They're not even very good at it.
Edit: A few people have interpreted the title as serious, so I wanna clarify that it was meant as a sarcastic joke about how little sense the neurotypical world makes to me, but it is still legitimately me asking for help understanding said neurotypical world....
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