With the lastest news of AI layoffs, I'm struggling to understand how the idea of a career still holds. If careers themselves effectively become gambles like lottery tickets, how do we maintain drive and hopes in the longterm endgame of our struggles?...
This is not necessarily effective on its own, but it's a way to find out what the situation is. It is a simple way to open the discussion about your lack of interest in what they have to say. Sometimes they just shut up.
My family immigrated to the UK from Poland when I was six. I'm 20 now, speak much better English than Polish and feel like this is my land/culture. However I have a Polish first and last name, Polish passport and "unique" accent everyone picks up on, so despite this I'm usually perceived as an outsider. It makes me really sad...
You might be able to find people who accept you, even if the average Brit doesn't. People have strange ideas about whom to hate and why.
It's complicated and I can't pretend to really understand your situation, but I trust that feeling pity for them works better for your mental health than any other reaction, including trying to ignore them. Whatever you do, don't let yourself believe them.
If "Go fuck yourself" is not your style or otherwise inadvisable, then another option is to start with "You will not call me that. You will call me by my name. Thank you." Say this as calmly and evenly as you can. Keep saying it. Don't let her rattle you into straying from this.
If she insists, then pick a name to call her and insist on it no matter how much she objects. I doubt I need to suggest such a name, but rather I trust you to engage your creativity.
Even so, I don't have any objection to "go fuck yourself" if you think that wouldn't put your job in jeopardy.
If she can report you for being 5 minutes late, what stops you from reporting her when she leaves early? I'm not criticizing you, but rather genuinely asking what's in the way.
That is hard. If the manager is likely to side with her, then that limits your options considerably. In that case, if you truly need this job, then put your head down, persist, and let this delightful woman be wrong.
"Sure." And then don't do it. Over and over.
I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. It's not you; it's them. I suspect you're wonderful and I'm sorry that your employer doesn't recognize that.
I constantly see angry mobs of people decrying "woke", "critical race theory", ""grooming"", and whatever other nonsense they made up this week. They march around with guns, constantly appending lib as a prefix to any word they can use to denigrate. They actively plot violence and spew hatred in the open....
I can both understand and relate to being afraid of them. As you wrote, they do real damage and they seem intent on doing more and they seem to feel it's their mission to do so. From what I can tell, they have been programmed to see the very concept of progressive thinking as evil. Fearing them seems sensible, because being aware of the threat makes it easier to defend against it or protect oneself from it.
But how exactly does it improve your life to hate them?
I relate to your position. You are wrong. You absolutely do choose to hate or not hate. This lies entirely within your control.
I used to have the impulse to hate them, but I don't any more.
On the list you cite, emotions is the one thing you choose, even though it might not feel that way right now. I don't expect you to believe me. I will cite Lisa Feldman Barrett and the book How Emotions are Made and you can decide whether you want to explore or not.
När det gäller en effekt som är väletablerad av vetenskaplig forskning och som har tendens att skapa missbruk (där det annars skulle aldrig finnas) låter det inte bara som fråga om personligt ansvar.
Samtidigt är det sant att evighets scrolling har blivit ett "Best Practice" mönster och pga det är det väldigt tufft att undvika utan att helt och hållet kasta mobilen i sjön.
I have a collection of about ~110 4K Blu-Ray movies that I've ripped and I want to take the time to compress and store them for use on a future Jellyfin server....
I am definitely keeping an eye on my electricity bill right now, since I have Unmanic running full speed and it's about 3 weeks into a 4-month job that might only save 1 TB.
If you are dissatisfied with the free thing I gave you, then I am happy to send you a refund of your purchase price. 🤷♂️
That's my preferred strategy.
UPDATE: Before any angry cards and letters, let me clarify. When I reply this way, I learn a lot about the person I'm talking to, including whether they are prepared to have a reasonable conversation about this complex matter. The response I'm hoping for is "Well played.", because that tells me that they recognize how ridiculous we are both being. I can work with them.
If they are merely having a tough time and needed to vent, then they'll notice that and we can move forward.
If they are truly that entitled, then I don't mind what happens next, because they would probably never have accepted any help I could offer them, anyway.
what do i do in this position (im black) ( lemmy.world )
In our post-AI era, is job security strictly mythical? Or How to believe in careers as a concept worth doing?
With the lastest news of AI layoffs, I'm struggling to understand how the idea of a career still holds. If careers themselves effectively become gambles like lottery tickets, how do we maintain drive and hopes in the longterm endgame of our struggles?...
why does he think that knook isnt a word? is he stupid? ( lemmy.world )
I this a firm and polite way to tell an opinionated coworker to stop pushing his agenda I don't care about?
cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/906126...
Am I supposed to ask stupid questions here, or *not* ask stupid questions?
It’s kinda how you read the name, innit?
Why is currency so essential?
Why do we focus solely on this one aspect of life?
Will I ever be seen as truly British?
My family immigrated to the UK from Poland when I was six. I'm 20 now, speak much better English than Polish and feel like this is my land/culture. However I have a Polish first and last name, Polish passport and "unique" accent everyone picks up on, so despite this I'm usually perceived as an outsider. It makes me really sad...
My (20F) colleague (60sF) is a workplace bully, what do I do?
This is a job at a casual dining establishment. My colleague is driving me nuts but there seems to be no recourse for it. UK btw...
What podcasts have you been listening to the most during the year?
I'm getting close to the bottom of my backlog on a few podcasts, so I'm looking to get something new in there....
How come liberals dont hate conservatives the way conservatives hate liberals
I constantly see angry mobs of people decrying "woke", "critical race theory", ""grooming"", and whatever other nonsense they made up this week. They march around with guns, constantly appending lib as a prefix to any word they can use to denigrate. They actively plot violence and spew hatred in the open....
'Evigheds-scrolling' skal være slut: EU-politikere vil gå efter tech-giganters hemmelige våben ( www.dr.dk )
[Request] Any Guides to FFMPEG, Transcoding, Codecs, and Metadata?
I have a collection of about ~110 4K Blu-Ray movies that I've ripped and I want to take the time to compress and store them for use on a future Jellyfin server....
Is complaining to open source project maintainers getting normalized ? ( lemmy.ml )
And how can this be improved ? Should "normies" be pushed into RTFM or ELI5 ?
can you help me formulate an answer to a colleague who is not my boss but feels entitled to tell me how I have to work?
cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/803244...
Does an array start with 1 or 0? ( szmer.info )