flicker

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Mentally ill woman in her late 30s. Quit my jobs with DIDDs to go to work a retail job and go to school.

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flicker ,

Yeah. The lockpicking tools I use and want to use and can't use is just nOrMaL bEhAvIoR u guiyzz!!

We have ADHD. One of the hallmarks is hyperfocus. We will, several times a year, sometimes a month, hyperfocus on a "hobby" and do it every moment we're awake and not at work or school (to the neglect of eating or bathing or sleep) and then, at random, be unable to do it anymore to the point where we can't, even if we want to.

This is an ADHD community. When you see us complaining about "normal" things, we simply aren't putting in the thirty caveats that explain why this thing we're complaining about isn't "normal," because we don't have to explain ourselves to other people with our conditon.

And there is nothing more annoying than hanging out in a safe space for your condition and having people constantly show up to try to explain that this is "normal." It's not. We know it's not. There's books about it. Studies about it. We just shouldn't have to explain the background details of what makes this abnormal every goddamn time!

flicker ,

If a better game comes out, we'll play that.

... then come back to SDV.

flicker ,

Bender had his gender bent twice! Once when he had a sex change operation and became Coilette to participate in the robot Olympics, and later when the Borax Kid and the Rock Alien changed the gender of everyone on the Planet Express.

Both episodes are imperfect through today's lens but I actually did enjoy the Coilette episode.

"You're making us look bad in front of the other genders!" And "Do you promise to get out of my gender and stay out?"

flicker ,

Oh my God now I want this so much.

flicker ,

Are you asking for a challenge?!

flicker ,

Loved Ugly Americans.

Leonard is one of my role models.

flicker ,

Same.

I'm not even lonely!

flicker ,

Mine has a setting where if a number calls you once, it blocks. If it calls you a second time, it goes through. And it works! I use it all the time.

flicker ,

But Mr. Peppy was a lover, not a fighter! He only drank the bones of sheep!

flicker ,

It just won't stay dead!

flicker ,

I love your link, but I want to clarify that I was quoting an Futurama opening line.

flicker ,

Because there are, genuinely, people in this world, in this moment, who are considering suicide so sincerely that seeing an image like this at the exact wrong moment will decide that it's what they should do.

flicker ,

I was going to make this exact same comment but I was going to put "I've never known the despair that leads a person to attempt suicide."

I'm glad we seem to be on the same page.

flicker ,

Futurama has been my go-to for years at this point.

flicker ,

My ADHD: Watch it now.

Me: "But I'm supposed to be-"

My ADHD: I said we're watching the procrastination video.

flicker ,

Sure, they take years to ban things like r/jailbait and all those fascist subs, but people with rooms to jerk off in a step too far.

I have zero interest one way or another in people who have the resources to devote a space to this, or the ego to want to share that space. It's a completely foreign interest to me. But to ban people on the internet for being sexual in a way you don't understand is equally beyond me.

flicker ,

Same witch that did Beast's curse is the one who saved Gaston.

You have a year to prove you're not a piece of shit or you die.

She doubles as a quest giver. "Here's a couple quests. Pick one and do it. Every time you help someone you prove you're a little less awful, and every time you ask me if you've done enough to be saved, you lose a few points of redemption credit, so don't ask me if you've been good enough to not die. Get to cracking on these heroic deeds, chop chop."

Make a few of the tasks morally complicated.

Make all of them take measurable time. Sure, rounding up sheep for the farmer isn't too dangerous, but it'll take you a while and it's not as heroic as fighting that necromancer... which task do you take?

flicker ,

I know a lot of people still have terrible fanfiction they wrote as teens on the internet somewhere, so the warning is very appropriate.

flicker ,

Just to add support to your point, it's literally in The Official Stardew Valley Cookbook that the inspiration comes from Harvest Moon. He's not at all claiming to have invented anything. ConcernedApe is a humble treasure.

(I just finished reading the cookbook is why I pulled that information from there. I'm sure there's lots of other places where he said that.)

flicker ,

I don't know where in the world you are but the Publix near my house always has hummus tubs BOGO and that makes it extremely affordable. I just have to be careful not to look at much else cuz everything else is way too expensive for my blood.

flicker ,

Hey thanks for answering. I never talk to an expert on this stuff and I have zero knowledge of the organization, but I was wondering if you might be willing to tell us what change you'd ideally see to bring the organization to a place where it's something you'd be proud of again?

I'm a layperson. And a woman. And I have nothing to gain, this is just curiosity.

flicker ,

Women are completely unrepresented for some reason.

flicker ,

This was an edited version of my original comment which I figured would've gotten me a bunch of hate.

"Yet again, women don't exist at all to the people obsessed with femboys."

flicker ,

I don't think you can claim to be an objective scientist and also claim that data you haven't personally experienced is invalid.

What a remarkably self-centered worldview.

I hope you get to feel that someday of that's what you want but discounting an entire population that way is... not cool.

flicker ,

I'm sorry I don't find it funny when I say "women are missing" and someone's reply is, "but I wish I was one." You suffering is not funny to me. You changing the topic to your experience isn't funny to me.

And if there's one thing I really don't like, and I think most people wouldn't enjoy, it's being told to relax. I understand you don't like that I didn't find your joke funny, but I'm allowed to feel however I want. Just like you are.

flicker ,

I know caring about things isn't cool. I know expressing honest annoyance is super not cool, but this is Lemmy, so I decided to be genuine.

flicker ,

I have long, thick, curly hair and washing it involves making sure the water soaks through to my scalp, making sure the conditioner gets through to the scalp, combing it through once it's soaked with product (brushing it dry is a nightmare), scrubbing every inch of my scalp to avoid skin or dirt build up, then rinsing it.

This is a time consuming process. Luckily, my ADHD doesn't interfere in this process because it makes every shower about me having an argument with someone where I win. Or babbling to myself about whatever major concerns I have (do I want to have children?)

And also I listen to podcasts. Right now I'm doing Dungeons and Daddies and the opening/closing song for it is such a goddamned banger it's been playing nonstop in my head for at least the past 6 days.

Love, strange love a star woman teaches

I've known for years that Gene Roddenberry wrote lyrics for Theme from Star Trek so that he could receive 50% of the royalties, but it never occurred to me that I should try and find out what those lyrics were. However, the lyrics did come up recently in a nerdy trivia show I watch, "Uhm, Actually", and now that I know them, I...

flicker ,

Wow I... hate it.

I'm so surprised!

Went to look for the first time in a while...didn't even take me 10 minutes to find an obvious bot. ( www.reddit.com )

All it does is respond to the title. sometimes that works out for it....sometimes its horrible. Just a tiny bit down, check the old school cool. down in the comment graveyard is another number name one doing the exact same thing.

flicker ,

I think the thing I hate the most about LLM stuff isn't even how awkward it is. It's how it's all so blah. Like having cream of wheat for dinner. Sure, it qualifies as food, but you're definitely not living.

Even when it references pop culture or memes, it does it so... lame.

flicker ,

I'm seeing a lot of them lately.

flicker ,

I upvoted your previous comment, but I wouldn't say it's a bad joke. Reductionist humor is still a valid form of humor, even if it doesn't appeal to you.

flicker ,

Hair so bad, she looks AI generated.

flicker ,

I am willing to offer some of my hot leaf water.

flicker ,

Sounds like the answer is for him to pull the trigger himself?

flicker ,

I honestly get where you're coming from. I'm from the US southeast, and the internet had a whole moment with the phrase "bless your heart," and they are almost exclusively using it wrong, which is such a shame.

But getting mad about it just makes trolls appear and assholes will say the thing that annoys you just to annoy you. Best to just try to let it go.

flicker ,

Why, yes. That would be the entire point.

flicker ,

I have to say, since finally playing a wizard, once you get fireball it's hard to imagine life any other way.

flicker ,

Probably! I have a conditioner that's all-that-stuff free and it no longer grosses me out to touch.

And thank goodness because I have big, curly, loooong hair

flicker ,

This is going to sound crazy, but I use Suave Essentials Wild Cherry Blossom. It's like 1 or 2 bucks a bottle and thank goodness because I have to use half a bottle when I wash my hair. What I used to spend...

I found it through the Curly Girl approved products list. Here's a copy-paste of the entire ingredients (in case someone more knowledgeable comes along to tell me it has stuff in it I didn't know was bad for me).

Ingredients: Water (Aqua), Cetearyl Alcohol, Stearamidopropyl Dimethylamine, Fragrance (Parfum), Lactic Acid, Potassium Chloride, Disodium EDTA, PEG-150 Distearate, Tocopheryl Acetate, Methylchloroisothiazolinone, Methylisothiazolinone, Fragaria Vesca (Strawberry) Juice, Benzyl Alcohol, Hexyl Cinnamal, Limonene, Linalool, Red 33 (CI 17200), Yellow 5 (CI 19140).

The Curly Girl site I use says that the methyl ingredients can cause itchiness in a sensitive scalp so keep that in mind if you try it.

flicker ,

I don't know but I'm now very much considering writing that book, as a scathing critique of how those books are "products of their time," and as a metaphor for how times change.

flicker ,

You misread it just like I did the first time!

The post says people without ADHD only have like 2 interests.

Which... is also baffling to me.

flicker ,

I always thought that the boos were their own species that happened to look like our stereotypical ghosts and still reproduced and died and all that.

...Someone get a koopa, we need to do an experiment.

flicker ,

You have to do kind of a combination of pushing down with your butt to get upward momentum, then pulling up with your abs. Then you keep it going with the two.

It's hell. And to get up, you grab the edge of the desk and pull. 0/10 Do not recommend.

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