filmfreak75

filmfreak75 , 2 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #ActuallyAutistic

“trust, but verify"

also known as

“I don't believe anything I’m told, since nothing can be true unless I personally already know it”

filmfreak75 OP , 2 days ago

@ferricoxide @actuallyautistic in my case, i am dealing with a manager who assumes everything i am saying can’t possibly be correct, since i am the one saying it

filmfreak75 OP , 2 days ago

@Murdoc @ferricoxide @actuallyautistic this is a general way two of my managers function—if someone else says the same thing i do, they get believed whereas i get challenged

filmfreak75 OP , 2 days ago

@Murdoc @ferricoxide @actuallyautistic it’s a special kind of arrogance when your manager starts dictating to you how you’re going to keep your personal task list AND it takes four back and forths before they agree that you can do it how you’ve been doing it for years

filmfreak75 OP , 1 day ago

@fishidwardrobe @Murdoc @ferricoxide @actuallyautistic over the years i’ve found myself working for people who care more about how the work is being as opposed to the work being done at all.

filmfreak75 , 7 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #ActuallyAutistic anyone else tired of always having to be the better person at work?

filmfreak75 OP , 6 days ago

@fishidwardrobe @actuallyautistic for me it is the “just let all the abuse just roll off your back" thing

filmfreak75 OP , 6 days ago

@fishidwardrobe @actuallyautistic it's a lot of passive aggressive stuff so it's more subtle and harder to actual bring up to powers that be

NightlyBye , 13 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic

#ActuallyAutistic folks in the UK - have you ever used a "guaranteed interview/assessment" scheme for a job application, and ended up getting the job?

I'm weighing up "don't disclose anything until you have a job because it might put them off even if they HAVE to give you an interview" with "do everything you can to get to the interview stage then hopefully you can really impress them".

filmfreak75 , 13 days ago

@NightlyBye @actuallyautistic i'm not in the UK, so curious what this process is.

filmfreak75 , 13 days ago

@Jobob @NightlyBye @actuallyautistic not sure i've ever heard of something like that in the US

filmfreak75 , 13 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #ActuallyAutistic found on #ElmosFolly

filmfreak75 OP , 13 days ago

@gary_alderson @actuallyautistic i'd think it make it worse but i guess time will tell

filmfreak75 OP , 13 days ago

@gary_alderson @actuallyautistic from your toot to the powers that be's eyes

chevalier26 , 14 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Do any of y'all have EXTREME heat intolerance? It's like the older I get the more I can't put up with hot weather. I've always been very "hot-natured," prefer winter over summer, etc. but this year I think my intolerance has been the worst yet. Friends are telling me how it's peak summer weather (90 degrees is comfortable?!?) meanwhile I start sweating when it's 70+ degrees Fahrenheit outside. What gives?

filmfreak75 , 14 days ago

@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic i've never done well in heat and i grew up on the East Coast. i have always loved Autumn since it was a perfect level of chill for me.

i moved to Seattle since (27 years ago) the weather was much milder than the East Coast. and since it is gray 9 months of the year, less irritating sunlight.

but as the world changes I now have 2 air conditioners since even in Seattle the summers make it a must.

chevalier26 , 20 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Does it bother anyone else when someone folds your laundry for you? I do appreciate the effort and the intention, but half the time I have to go back and refold everything because it wasn’t folded the way I need it to be for me to put it away or organize it properly. I would rather just do all the folding myself lol. Idk, I know that probably seems selfish but it does irk me sometimes.

filmfreak75 , 20 days ago

@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic i tend to like to fold since i find it calming -- plus when other people were in my house, they would leave stuff out and never do anything with it, so i just needed to clear the clutter

18+ filmfreak75 , 21 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #ActuallyAutistic is it me or are some of these options to these questions offensive?

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18+ filmfreak75 OP , 21 days ago

@UnCoveredMyths @actuallyautistic this is an evaluation for a parallel job to mine

the person and i are very different in style and approach whereas they are what i call "socially appropriate” and i come across as being the opposite

this has me very shaken since this is the quiet part said out loud and i ever thought i'd see this

filmfreak75 OP , 21 days ago

@Jobob @UnCoveredMyths @actuallyautistic this is a job evaluaiton form

the examples are perceptions of behavior and that behavior is subjective to a neurotypcial mindset that is preferred to the exclusion of ignoring that there are neurodivergents among them

and while in a reasonable setting showing examples of your work being as valid, this isn't the form the subject fills out -- it's what others are filling out about them -- and that is the problem

18+ filmfreak75 OP , 21 days ago

@felyashono @actuallyautistic this is not the standard form used in the past

this is the first time a survey worded like this has been used and i am not sure why this is being used