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filmfreak75

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I have to be like this 'cause this is what I'm like.
—the Doctor, Doctor Who

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@actuallyautistic anyone else tired of always having to be the better person at work?

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@filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic Any abuse at all at work is just damn wrong. Sorry the place you work doesn't get that, that's horrible.

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@fishidwardrobe @actuallyautistic it's a lot of passive aggressive stuff so it's more subtle and harder to actual bring up to powers that be

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@actuallyautistic apparently the OG poster from is also seeing a high engagement on this post as i am

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@actuallyautistic at a very large choral concert to support friends in the chorus and every time i attend one of these, its extremely draining — good thing i have Monday off

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@actuallyautistic found on

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@gary_alderson @actuallyautistic from your toot to the powers that be's eyes

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@filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic it's not me babe

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@actuallyautistic
hallelujah -- i found the mute function for specific chats in Teams
https://mastodon.social/@filmfreak75/112651305128376295

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@actuallyautistic any advice on how to tactfully tell co-workers who are excessively using Teams chat that you’re not interested in the chatter without coming across as “uncooperative", “rude", “not a team player" etc.

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@filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic "could we please start a non-work channel so it's easier to find work related comments?"

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@actuallyautistic just started yet another documentary series on Jonestown (my 4th now), and while i consider movies/tv and true crime among my special interests, is watching multiple versions of something on the same topic a special interest or just a part of the master ones?

also, this new series is by far the worst so far -- very superficial. all the others have given me new information that the others had not.

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@actuallyautistic was in a group meeting with mostly well intentioned neurotypicals who just kept going on and on in the most ableist way about everything

for context, migraine started at the top of the meeting andis going unabated as we speak

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@actuallyautistic just updated my standard bio for first time in decades — from the most recent episode of

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@actuallyautistic what are everyone’s thoughts on signing cards (birthday, etc.) at work, where you do not really know the person, but there is an implied expectation that you do so

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@fishidwardrobe @actuallyautistic true, but it still feels insincere

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@filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic I find that very little about work -- or at least the social aspect of work -- is anything close to sincere.

I look at the signing thing as camouflage. I do the team lottery, too, and the sweepstake at Grand National time.

I draw the line at Secret Santa. ::shudder::

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@actuallyautistic has anyone tried this and if so, how did it work for you…

Autism & Emails Does A Disclaimer Help Misunderstanding

https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/autism-email-problems

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@willaful

I tend to keep personal information (and I consider this personal) to myself, or share it only with a very small group. Telling someone else, in my experience, lets them feel free to offer their opinions. About me. Unsolicited. I'm uncomfortable with that.

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@ScottSoCal @willaful @actuallyautistic i briefly thought about disclosing at work to try to put them on notice that they were acting discriminatory to a person under a protected class, but realized it wouldn't change their behavior at the end of the day

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@actuallyautistic i do a lot of meeting requests and receive a lot of emails that start like this:

"Good morning!

I hope you all had excellent weekends.”

I start mine like this, and because of this, am considered an asshole:

“[Name] would like to set up a one hour call on this topic. Please let me know if any of the following times work:”

…because heaven forbid we be efficient and clear in our communication

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@filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic I just realized that my lack of small-talk in email made people think I was a jerk. I am now doing my best to include plenty of small talk so they will know for sure that I am a jerk.

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@bhawthorne

A co-worker of mine is determined, in a friendly way, to force me into small talk. When I need to go see him about something he wants me to greet, ask customary questions (How are you?) Habit on his part is to protest by saying "We don't sleep together, so you can't just demand." He stopped saying that - or laughs after he says it - because I responded with "That's not my fault, you're the straight one."

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@actuallyautistic has anyone had a supervisor act so passive aggressively all the time it feels like they are goading you into a meltdown?

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@filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic Yes... and speaking as someone who had a meltdown, ended up in the hospital because of it, then returned to the bad situation to almost have it happen again (because of people pleasing issues). If you are having a moment when you have the clarity to see what is going on, trust your instincts, they will not hesitate to throw you to the wind when it's in their best instance. Protect yourself and do what's best for you.

I hope it works out for you, this is an awful situation for ASD people.

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@punkcoder @actuallyautistic this particular asshole has been doing things for the past 5 years and i was only diagnosed a few months ago so i never know anymore.

i work from home primarily now (and trying to make that permanent) so my meltdown moments are at least in private.

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@actuallyautistic looking for non-rabid fans for discussions of both the classic and revival series

and by non-rabid, i mean people not on the “it’s gone woke”, “Jodi Whittaker destroyed the series”, etc. bandwagon

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@Susan60 @manu @actuallyautistic RTD and Moffat were great in my book.

Chibnal was obsessed with his “soft reboot” bullshit and instead of insisting not to make a big deal of the female regeneration, did the opposite.

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@Susan60 @filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic
Trivia: In the more recent Davies Miniseries "It's a Sin" there is a scene that plays on the set of Doctor Who (not labelled as such, I think).

He stated that it's a tribute to Dursley McLinden, an actor who played a part in the 1980s episode "Remembrance of the Daleks" and became an AIDS activist. Davies met him shortly before his death.

https://www.radiotimes.com/tv/its-a-sin-doctor-who-daleks/

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