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Irish, Tech, Linux, SRE, DevOps, K8s, HPC, Learning, Mentoring, Wine, Introspection

I hate myself enough to be a Systems Engineer / SRE but not enough to return to academia.

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olena , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I don’t operate the world putting everything into defined folders and boxes of clear tree-like structure (like I do on my laptop).
I operate the world by slapping infinite amount of tags on everything (which do not exist independently like in some tag cloud, but are rather interconnected in their own ways), and then tag-filtering or pulling the chain of tags when I need.
Sure, from outside that looks like a totally random chaotic pile, but it has its own structure, just the structure is different to what is usually pictured as a structure.

I know, autists are usually pictured as the ones requiring the boxes, but is it necessarily the boxes autists crave, or other forms of structure also work?





@actuallyautistic

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@olena @lmgenealogy @actuallyautistic My opinion: we see patterns in the chaos that others don't. These patterns bring stability and order to a chaotic system.

By someone changing the system without us knowing about it, we have to recompute all the patterns again which pisses us off.

E.g. I know exactly where X item is in the big boxes of mess in my attic. If X isn't there I freak out because the pattern says it should be there. (See: safeloosing)

AnAutieAtUni , to ActuallyAutistic group
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OOPS! Kind of (yeah, OK, not really) accidental book haul! Haha!

Made a list of things to do after exams and I’m working through them. One that kept coming up was going to a large book shop to spend an hour or two browsing several book sections, just being there, no rush. Then stumbled across these three gems!! Couldn’t choose between them as they each had different benefits and styles. I love that I now have lots of different ‘voices’ all on the topic of autistic self care and mental health.

My plan is to use them to dip in and out of, compare their advice and generally absorb them over time. Will be most helpful when I’m in the midst of struggles. I’ll just grab them, sit on the floor with them around me, various pages open, and gather a collection of words of wisdom at once.

The books in the photo are (in no particular order):

  • The Guide to Good Mental Health on the Autism Spectrum, by Jeanette Purkis, Dr Emma Goodall, Dr Jane Nugent (forewords by Dr Wen Lawson & Kirsty Dempster-Rivett)

  • Looking After Your Autistic Self, A Personalised Self-Care Approach to Managing Your Sensory and Emotional Well-Being, by Niamh Garvey @niamhgarvey 💚

  • Self-Care For Autistic People, 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Unmask!, by Dr Megan Anna Neff

(If there are any other authors of these books on Mastodon who I can tag here, let me know!)

What was missing from the bookshop’s shelves are books on:

  • Any topics related to being AuDHD, not just autistic or ADHD

  • Smaller, more manageable-sized books on life as an ADHD-er (there were 2-3 great books there but all ginormous! Too daunting for me.)

They only had a selection of all the great books I know are available though. Check out:

https://autismbooksbyautisticauthors.com

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

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@AnAutieAtUni @niamhgarvey @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd is self care for autistic people good?

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@AnAutieAtUni @niamhgarvey @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd perfect reply - will order them both - already have multiple copies of niamhs book 😂

pathfinder , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic

Autistic brains be stupid. Well, obviously not stupid, they just seem to work, or not work, in mysterious ways.

The main one that has always got me, about mine, is that I have no memory for sound, absolutely none. I can't remember a song, or a sound. I can't remember what my parents sounded like and none of my memories carry, for want of a better word, a soundtrack. I can remember what I was thinking and what others were saying, but not hearing them say it, nor any other sound. I also don't dream in sound, at least as far as I know. All my dreams are silent.

And yet, and it's a big yet. I have an excellent memory for voices and sounds. Like many autistics I have near perfect pitch, at least when I'm hearing others sing, or music playing. Just don't ask me to reproduce it, because I can't. If I meet someone I haven't met for a while, then I will almost certainly not recognise their face, or remember their name, but there is a very good chance that I will recognise them from their voice. I am also very good at detecting accents. Even the slightest hint of one in, say, an actor pretending to be an american, will get me searching Wikipedian to see if I am right about their actual nationality.

So, if I can tell the sound of a Honda CBR engine two blocks away, or a voice, or an accent buried deep, I must have the memories to compare against. And yet... nope.

So, as I said, autistic brains be stupid.


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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic I'm the same for faces and names. I need contextual cues to "remember" who a person is.

Yet, I can easily recall in exquisite detail, the minutia of our last few IRL interactions. Who was sitting where, who was wearing what, perfumes / aftershave, food eaten, drinks, who else was there, etc. just not what their face looks like

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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic If I was asked who people are in a photo album, I would know who they are.

If I bumped into someone on the street, it would take me a while to know who they are as I'm missing the contextual cues. The voice helps a lot, although sometimes I can struggle with that on calls if I don't know whose voice to expect.

Brains are weird 😂

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@bhawthorne @olena @actuallyautistic @pathfinder It's all just memories now.

Like fingerprints on an abandoned handrail.

devxvda , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic Got the new Loops Quiet 2, in white, with the new style case complete with optional engraving.

So far so good. The tips are slightly better. Overall a modest improvement. Not a huge upgrade from the old model.

I still miss the Maroon Quiets!

devxvda OP ,
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@ratcatcher New case is included on all Quiets now.

The Quite 2 is a small, incremental, improvement.

Grand but not worth spending the money if you assumed it was gonna be a massive upgrade and you are counting pennies.

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@ratcatcher @actuallyautistic

To return to this topic for a moment, after some use of the new Quiet 2.

They are an incremental improvement. Like how the Sony WH-1000XM models are small improvements between versions (2-3 or 3-4, etc, with 2-4 being a good upgrade as enough has changed to warrant an upgrade)

Seeing as you can no longer buy the Quiet 1s, I guess we will end up with them eventually.

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